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you bet means in tagalog

you bet means in tagalog - win

Purge of the foreign language congregations have begun!

Longtime lurker here, haven't posted yet.
As you may remember, a few months ago, a letter was read that the branch will be evaluating foreign language congregations / groups to see if they still are needed. My personal belief is that this is being done primarily for two main reasons:
  1. Lack of qualified brothers in the English halls. A lot of the up and coming pioneer / elder combos love going to a foreign hall. Raises their status, easy to get assembly part, makes them look more spiritual, etc. Very few are reaching out in English halls, and these foreign language groups are sucking up this valuable resource.
  2. Selling of kingdom halls. When a hall is sold, the congregations have to get assigned to another hall. The more halls sold, the less slots that are open in neighboring halls. Foreign language halls take up valuable slots. I grew up in Fremont, CA, in the 90's there were 7 big English halls, now they have dwindled down to 2. There is one kingdom hall located there that sits on a property easily worth more than $1 million. However, it only houses two congregations - a Chinese and Tagalog congregation, no English. I bet the branch would LOVE to dump these two congregations off somewhere / dissolve them to get that money.
Anyways, now, I live in Sacramento, CA area, quite a few foreign language congregations / groups here. A few weeks ago, the French congregation here was notified that their hall will be dissolving in a month. They've been a congregation since 2004. Was announced that they would need to let the elders know which congregation to send their cards, however were "encouraged" to go back to English. I also heard the Japanese group here was disbanded. Since they are group, they will just meld into the English hall that hosted them.
Only other that I know was dissolved was the Portuguese group in Hawaii, was a pretty new group, only existed for a like a year.
There was a PIMI elder brother talking about it here, and he said the main criteria going forward is if there are at least 1000 speakers of the language in the territory that rely on the language, meaning, they don't speak English good and can only learn how to be a witness with that language. If there isn't, then the congregation could be recommended to be deleted.
Does anybody else know if any foreign language congregation / group getting dissolved? I'm interested in the SF bay area since that's where I group up and still know a lot of people over there.
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POV of a Philippine-Born Fil-Am on Pilipinx

Last month, I've officially been an American for half of my life. I still haven't forgotten tagalog, and if I came back to the Philippines, I would bet that none of you can even tell that I'm an American from the way I speak Tagalog. I started learning English in the Philippines too.
Though I personally prefer to use the term "Pilipinx", I do not advocate on enforcing it on anyone. Like the posts I saw, if you prefer identifying with Filipino, then fine. From what I've gathered so far, I believe that it is just out of respect of someone's humanity to identify them as Pilipinx if they so desired.
I saw a post claiming that Fil-Ams stayed silent about Duterte as well as his Anti-Terror Bill. Sure, my parents may have been on board with it and Duterte, but I assure you - there are a huge number of Fil-Ams like me who are advocating against Duterte and his regime, so please don't use harmful generalizations that we are "silent" in order to fallaciously further your argument.
"Filipinx" is not "sociological sewage". To be honest, it really shouldn't be controversial, though I understand the Philippines is behind on LGBT related subjects. Personally I do not believe it to be a conspiracy of the west to take us over. Ironically, many Pilipinx still have good ol' colonial mentality.
I can sort of understand the outrage because such novel things are difficult to grasp when you've never had to deal with them head-on. Mainstream Pilipinx culture is, from my experience, inherently sexist and homophobic (implying that I was too). Ironically, I turned out to be queer.
From the posts I've read, I think it's just laughable to call this "westernization" while pre-colonial Philippine society being Animistic (with other religions such as Islam and Hinduism) and binary gender not being that big of a deal (nonbinary deities for example) which is evident in our indigenous languages before the Spanish came.
I would also like to emphasize that I identify as a CIS Male, which for some of you who don't know, I just think I'm a guy, born as a guy, however I am not limited to falling in love with girls. I personally don't think that "progressive" ideas should be dismissed as "western" just because it's so foreign and unknown. Think about how many people are raised to be in a label of being either male or female, but being neither. Difficult isn't it? Unless you yourself had to deal with it. Lastly, male privilege is real. I think that everybody knows just how much men have dominated womxn (yes I am doing that too) and how hxstory (you probably think it's trivial) was primarily centered around men. Words are not just words and have powerful meaning and nuances that permeate our being, our culture, our society and so much more. Identifying your privilege is one thing, but allowing others who have not had the chance to be real "equals" to you should be a thought in your mind.
Thank you for listening to my ted talk.
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Localizing Your Indie Game: Crazy Idea or Growth Hack?

Localizing Your Indie Game: Crazy Idea or Growth Hack?
Working at a localization company, every now and then I see indie developers among the clients, so I got to wondering: how do indie devs decide whether to localize their games? Sure enough, localization is a way to expand your player audience, but does localizing indie games always pay for itself? The goal of this article was to let the independent developers speak for themselves and find an honest answer.
I reached out to some indie developer acquaintances and received answers from four teams ranging from one to 10-12 people. Two studios produce mobile games, while the third studio and one solo developer make PC games.
Meet the heroes of this article:
Duck Rockets (Bon Voyage), Alexander Goodwin (Selfloss), Ink Stains Games (Stoneshard) and Mountains (Florence).
Mountains — an Australian studio founded by Ken Wong, a leading designer of the popular mobile puzzle game Monument Valley. The studio’s first project was the mobile game Florence, which was released on Google Play and the App Store in 2018 for Valentine’s Day. Then on February 13, 2020, the game was released on Steam and for Nintendo Switch.
Florence is an interactive love story, told in comics format in the “daily life” genre with mini-games, and is memorable for its offbeat presentation, cute design, and pleasant soundtrack. The game has received numerous awards for “Best Mobile Game” from The Game Awards, GDC Awards, and BAFTA, and was the 2018 winner of the Apple Design Award.
Ink Stains Games — an indie studio based in St. Petersburg (Russia, not Florida!). The team’s first project is the PC shooter 12 Is Better Than 6, which was made by three people. The studio’s next game was Stoneshard, a turn-based hard-core RPG about the travels of a medieval mercenary, for which the team had to be expanded to six people.
Recently Stoneshard was released on Steam Early Access. Interestingly, in 2018 Ink Stains Games conducted a successful Kickstarter campaign for Stoneshard, collecting over $100 thousand — three times more than the target amount.
Duck Rockets — an indie studio from Chelyabinsk, Russia. In 2017 they released the mobile game Bon Voyage and localized it into 8 languages. We talked about this in our interview article.
Bon Voyage is a casual three-in-a-row game, available on Android, on the social networks VK, Facebook, and Odnoklassniki, and in the local stores of Iran and Japan.
Alexander Goodwin is a fairly unusual developer. He makes a point of doing all his projects alone, from the initial concept to the music and release trailer montage. And yet Alexander is entirely self-taught, and has acquired his skills in modeling, art, music, and engine expertise in the broad expanse of the internet.
Under his belt the young solo developer has two mobile games on Google Play, which have gone unnoticed, and three games on Steam: Algotica, Mechanism, and Selfloss (release slated for spring of 2020). Selfloss is a melancholy adventure about a kind old man and his magic staff in a fantasy setting of Old Russia and Iceland.
Alexander is passionate about his work, and sometimes goes for days on end developing his games. He is also a postgraduate student and teaches at the Unity and Unreal Engine courses of ITMO University in St. Petersburg.
What made you decide to localize your games?
Ink Stains Games: Not every gamer speaks English, and having their native language among the supported options is a strong reason for them to buy. If translating a game is an option, it should absolutely be done, as it has a direct effect on sales.
Incidentally, the entire text of your page should be localized, including the game expansion plan, the early access text box, and the supporter pack description (if any). We translated our Steam page into the languages for which we have localization. We can’t cite any specific numbers, but we have definitely seen an impact — wishlist conversion and purchases in these regions is markedly above average.
With Chinese gamers we had a debacle: we translated the description into Chinese, but forgot about the early access text box and the expansion plan. This made many people think they were buying a finished or nearly finished game (when in fact it was essentially an open beta), and they left lots of negative reviews, not realizing that it was still in early access. Or else they purchased the supporter pack, thinking it was standalone DLC. After we hastily translated these texts, the flow of negative feedback dropped considerably.
Alexander: Many developers don’t know (or forget) that Steam only features a game in the countries for which its page has been localized. At least, that’s how it was for a long time. This means that translating a game’s page and the game itself into different languages is the quickest way to make it visible to the largest number of people.
Duck Rockets: We decided to translate into languages other than English for one simple reason. The launch of the first non-Russian version was planned for Facebook, but the platform did not allow country-based soft launches or filtering of the countries in which gamers would see the app. So we had to at least cover a basic minimum for our European audience.
Who do you turn to for translations, and how do you choose the languages for localization?
You can localize through localization studios, freelance translators, or even using fan translations (crowdsourcing). Naturally, the quality of fan translations is rather unpredictable, but for indie games with a solid fan base this is a realistic option (Klei Entertainment is a good example). The crowdsourced translation can later be groomed using an editor and localization testing.
Mountains did their translations using a localization studio, Duck Rockets used the online professional translation service Nitro, while Alexander Goodwin and Ink Stains Games employed a combined approach: localization studio, freelance translators, and fan translation.
Ink Stains Games: 12 Is Better Than 6 was translated using a major localization studio. For Stoneshard we selected translators on an individual basis — mostly they found us themselves, since they had an interest in the project.
Polish localization was done by a fan: we met him halfway and gave him access to all the accompanying documentation, and then we integrated the translation into the game.
Alexander: Quite frequently the native speakers themselves help us out. I was once assisted by an ordinary school principal from Peking, who helped translate Algotica into Chinese — free of charge. He emailed me, offering to do so. I also employed the services of a localization studio for Mechanism: they translated it into Chinese and corrected my English and German (a friend provided the German translation).

How do you choose the languages for localization?

The number of languages selected cannot avoid being affected by the amount of text in the game. For example, Stoneshard (Ink Stains Games) currently contains 40,000 words, while Bon Voyage (Duck Rockets) has around 5,000 words, and Florence (Mountains) and the games of Alexander Goodwin contain little text. Algotica, for instance, has fewer than 1,000 words.
*Other languages into which Mountains has localized Florence: Arabic, Danish, Dutch, Finnish, Greek, Hindi, Indonesian, Malay, Norwegian, Swedish, Tagalog, Thai and Vietnamese
Ink Stains Games: Stoneshard is currently available in five languages (one of which is Russian, and another of which is a fan translation); our previous game was released in six languages. Stoneshard alone, even in this early stage of development, with no plotline, has over 40,000 words. 12 Is Better Than 6 has nearly three times fewer words — around 15,000. So for Stoneshard we lacked the resources to translate into every language.
It’s not simply a matter of money — nearly every localization has to be vetted for quality, and the more languages there are, the longer it takes. The game is complex, with extensive mechanics, so numerous nuances have to be fine-tuned. The translators have many questions regarding the setting and how to correctly translate various concepts. If there are any references we have to explain them as well, so as to adapt them to the language of translation.
Alconost comments (some feedback from the localization managers in my company): The challenges described by the Ink Stains Games team are a striking example of the need for glossaries for large-scale projects. These glossaries can contain the game’s primary terms, names, and locations, with explanations of their meanings. Ordinarily our localization team helps compile the project glossary.
Also important is the platform used to organize the translation work. Choosing the right platform makes for easy and productive discussion, so that issues are quickly resolved. Incidentally, here are the platforms we work with.
Mountains: Just like Monument Valley, Florence doesn't have much language in the game. Based on my experience with Monument Valley, it's relatively cheap to translate the game with so few words. So we did the most popular languages first — English, French, German, Italian, Spanish, Korean, Chinese (Simplified and Traditional), Japanese, Polish, Portuguese and Russian. This list was recommended to us by our publisher, Annapurna. On a later update we decided to add the extra languages.
Duck Rockets: At first we translated Bon Voyage into the primary European languages, betting on their profitability. Japanese and Arabic came up by accident; they were an experiment. We also tried translating the app page into other languages, and since there was interest from Turkey and Italy we localized the entire game into their languages, as well.
Which is better: to localize into many languages or to stick to the five most popular?
Ink Stains Games: In the future we plan to add localization into Spanish, French, Italian, Korean, and Japanese. Fan localizations may also end up being integrated.
We choose languages for localization based on the percentage of Steam users from a given country, and also based on data for various regions for our particular game.
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Alexander: If I see a game gaining popularity, I will naturally try to localize it into all the available Steam languages.
Duck Rockets: We have plans to expand the list of languages into which Bon Voyage is localized, but this is highly dependent on our audience. If we are seeing 1,000 installs a day from a country, it is definitely worth localizing into that country.
If the budget permits, it is worth including as more languages. Because everyone thinks you ought to translate into the most popular languages, which ends up raising competition among games in those languages.
Of course, we need paying users from these countries (where popular languages are spoken). The bulk of our profits comes from English- and German-speaking users. But the smaller stores also produce some income, and should not be written off — especially considering that they increase our download numbers and other metrics.
Mountains: We would love our game to reach as many people as possible. Like many decisions, we have to balance our desire to reach underserved audiences with the costs.

Localization process and results

Localization is more than putting a game’s text into table format, translating it, then feeding it back into the game. For some languages the game architecture may require serious reworking. Fortunately, many developers already know that it’s best to prepare for localization at the development stage.
Ink Stains Games: The need for future localizations is something we gave thought to from day one, when we were planning our game’s infrastructure, so considerable effort was made to optimize the mode of text storage. The entire in-game text was exported in a special text file format, from which the game can then pull it without our having to rebuild or alter it. The translator can freely edit and autonomously insert text into the game without our assistance. This proved convenient for both the developer and the translator.
Alconost comments: Working with text in table format is an option, but it is our opinion that for text-heavy projects — such as Stoneshard — it is more convenient to work using localization management platforms, which let you store localized texts, communicate with the translation team, and provide context within the text itself. Our customers prefer to work with us on Crowdin for app localization, and on GitLocalize for GitHub projects.
Duck Rockets: For translations into European languages we didn’t have to change a thing. When it came to Japanese we had to spend some time figuring out the display of the characters and the position of text in the game.
During localization into Farsi we had to make a serious effort to get the text to display properly from right to left. Here’s a bit of trivia: Farsi has its own symbols for Arabic numbers, meaning that we had to transform all the numbers displayed so as to replace the numbers we’re used to with Persian ones.
Mountains: We had to go through the game and identify any artwork that had words in it and prepare those bits of art to be substituted.
Did you have to change or redo anything in the game during localization?
Ink Stains Games: Yes, every language has its idiosyncrasies. For Russian and German we had to make it possible to indicate word gender and to produce the proper forms of adjectives, so that our generator of names for objects and dungeons would function properly in these languages.
Chinese posed a number of problems. In the same dungeon name generator the algorithm had to be changed: adjectives and nouns had to switch places. To do this correctly we had to rewrite the text parser — Chinese, as we know, has no spaces, which we use for text transposition in other languages. We also had to add support for Chinese punctuation for the log, since it has its own punctuation marks. In addition we had to work out the font settings: in the game the text is pixelated, which rendered many of the characters unreadable.
Alconost comments: Certain game fonts do not have the symbols for every language. This means that for certain language versions different fonts must be chosen, because without this many symbols will appear like □□□□. How can you check for this ahead of time? The internet has a number of excellent tools for pseudo-localization. These tools imitate the interface in the foreign language, including changing the text length and “checking” the encoding. Essentially, this launches a scenario that imitates the target language and produces a build, which can then be checked as in the testing process.
Alexander: No, my games are rated for a fairly young age group, with no skeletons (which are strictly prohibited in China), so I didn’t have to do any “culturalization.”
Duck Rockets: We only had one such incident: the game included the Carnival of Brazil, at which the heroine had almost nothing on. The Iranian publisher asked us to put some clothes on her, so we redrew her.

Has localization paid for itself, and what languages have proven the most profitable?

All the studios named Chinese as the most successful and profitable language. Duck Rockets’ game has not been localized into Chinese: for mobile games the situation is somewhat more complex, since without an arrangement with a Chinese publisher it is impossible to launch a game in China.
Ink Stain Games: Yes, all our localizations have paid off. Experience has shown that the purchase ratio is higher than usual in countries where the game is accessible in their language. Chinese performed especially well: the percentage of Chinese gamers ended up being on a par with the USA and Eastern Europe.
Alexander: Yes, absolutely. The majority of purchases come from the Asian market, especially China. Be sure to localize into Chinese (both simplified and traditional). That is an absolute must.
Duck Rockets: Our best-paying countries are the USA and Great Britain. Germany also provides a significant part of our income. We’ve never had a situation where localization failed to at least pay for itself. The game profits cover development, with funds left over to experiment a little with translations into new languages.
Of course, we had hoped that if we just translated into this one language we would see our audience increase in that country. But in the realities of the current market that remains a distant dream. What we ended up seeing was a noticeable rise in audience engagement and loyalty, which are also highly important, so localization was worth it regardless.
Mountains: Half of the sales for Florence were from China, and more people had played the game in Mandarin than in English.
Localisation did meet our expectations. We encountered some feedback from our players where some words would work better than others; but that is to be expected. We made the corrections on future updates.
Comment by Alconost: Collecting user feedback on localized versions is an excellent practice. This helps to correct oversights in time — for example, by sending a localized text for proofreading. Or to realize that your current provider is not producing a very high-quality translation. As our customers observe, “When users say nothing about the translation quality in our games, we’re thrilled: it means the translation is just fine.”

Life Hacks and Conclusions

What would you recommend to other developers to make localization more effective (cheaper, faster, etc.)? Can you share any life hacks with us?
Ink Stains Games: First and foremost, look for translators who actually like the game itself, and who will find it interesting to work on it. The best translator is one who understands the game and how it works.
Alexander: I stick to the rule that games should have as little text as possible, but it all depends on the project. If it’s an adventure game, it’s easy to keep the text to a minimum. Remember “Inside”: no words whatsoever, except for the menu text, and what a hit that was! My games have very little text, which simplifies the task of localization.
I don’t deny however that there are genres where extensive, well-written texts are of the utmost importance. If you have an RPG with a ton of text, make your standard language as close to ideal as possible, so as not to overpay for additional translation of new sentences later.
If your game is popular, and you’ve already translated into all the primary “gamer languages,” you are likely to get emails from gamers in various countries asking you to add localization for their own less widely spoken language. And if there is a demand, why not? In game development, especially in the indie sphere, it’s not how profitable a decision is that matters, but how it affects your image. I think people often forget about that.
Duck Rockets: If you need to quickly translate small texts, especially into 6-7 languages or more at once, the most convenient way is the online service Nitro.
You can find publishers for local stores, who usually undertake the localization themselves. That’s how it was with our Japanese and Iranian publishers.
Perhaps our best life hack is to localize the app store description and screenshots into other languages as a way to test audience interest. If a person opens the game’s page and sees English description and screenshots, they lose interest, and conversion drops. But when you localize the game’s page, conversion immediately increases.
Frequently the smaller markets have few interesting games (and apps in general) in their native language. This means less competition there, making it easier to attract an audience and make some money.
We took Bon Voyage to Iranian and Japanese stores. In Japan the result was not particularly impressive, but we did earn something. Iranian gamers, on the other hand, found our game very much to their liking, and they ended up becoming the most enthusiastic players we have. Games vary, and you never know for sure how the audience in a given country will receive your game. You have to experiment.
Alconost comments: In any case, a game needs to support EFIGS: English, French, Italian, German, and Spanish. Otherwise gamers are guaranteed to complain. Gamers have come to expect this selection of languages by default. As for other languages and markets, you can experiment with them by translating the description on Google Play and the App Store (without localizing the game itself). This is a good strategy.
The Russian-speaking segment currently accounts for a fairly large part of the gaming community: it is the third most widespread language on Steam, and the Russian gaming market has a worth of $1.7 billion. Gamers are constantly demanding Russian translations, and they leave low ratings for games that lack a Russian version. For this reason, in addition to the standard EFIGS languages + Chinese, Japanese, and Korean, we recommend including Russian in your localization.
Bottom line: is it worth localizing indie games, and when should you consider it?
Ink Stains Games: If you’re able to localize a game, absolutely do so: it’s the most effective means of increasing your game’s overall reach. There’s no point whatsoever in getting on Steam exclusively in one language. A good rule of thumb would be English, Russian, and Chinese.
If there are any regional statistics available for your community, take advantage of them. In our case, we went by the statistics for the countries of our Kickstarter backers. This was a fairly good way to approximate the order of precedence for the different languages.
Duck Rockets: If the game was created not just as a hobby, but in order to attract a wide audience and as a way to make money doing what you love, it’s worth it.
If the game doesn’t have much text, I think it is absolutely worth trying out the local stores. Everyone wants to make it big on Google Play and the App Store, but few consider the potential of the smaller platforms.
Alexander: Chinese localization for games is absolutely essential. Add the other languages gradually in order of profitability.
Mountains: Just build the game and UI with localisation in mind from the start. The China market is so big that I would never release a game without at least English and Chinese versions.
Our games have very little text, which made localisation a relatively cheap and easy process. For games with tens of thousands of words, such as RPGs, it’s a little more complex. But I think even indie developers should build with a localisation system already in place so that they can future proof themselves. It’s far more complicated to add localisation into a game’s architecture at the advanced stages.
A big thank-you to the talented indie developers who agreed to chat with us and share their experience!
Localize your games, guys — after all, experience has shown that it’s not always expensive, and an additional flow of players never hurts. :)
Article by Alconost contributor Margarita Shvetsova
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AITA/WIBTA for not financially suppoting my parents when they need it most and after they pass away

Long post. But it needs to be said. Been on my chest for a long long time.
Solo living for awhile now. For the past 2 years I haven't been giving any money to my parents. Not a single dollapeso/ringgit whatever. Nothing.
Last night, my father called me in Viber. Asking why I've stopped giving them money (as he does every once in awhile). He also tells me how he "wonders" why giving them 20%(average, he doesnt ask for specifics) of my net income was difficult for me.And for the nth time I tell him that they're dysfunctional. I state his issues one by one, and he finds lame excuses with each one. Right now he is in a desperate situation, for some reason he decided to buy a lot of land which he cannot afford racking up debt no one knows who would pay or how to pay. He is nearning 60 and is tripping everywhere in his shop. My evaluation on his actions at the moment is he is racking up debt for us to pay when he passes away. It's the person that he is and how I understand him to be.
Abit of backstory how we got into this situation.
* 1st grade = beat me up for protecting a classmate from a bully. Said don't mind other people's business. Kept getting beaten up till 4th grade. Would sometimes not go to school cause my lips are busted. My head also has alot of scars since he uses the belt as a knuckle. * 3rd grade - made me drop my pants and briefs in the disciplinary office so he can proudly show my bruises to the teachers. * 5th grade - I was tired of the bullshit. But I wasn't weak mentally. call me crazy but I knew deep inside I would succeed and leave that shithole. One night he kept shouting 'if you don't like it here leave MY house'. Since our doors were locked with padlocks I asked for the key. When he asked me why, I said I'm leaving. He got really angry that night but never gave me the key.
* 6th grade = Promised a PS2 when I graduate without failures. I graduated without failures, happy for the PS2 but... got beaten up and slapped in public for not taking a photo with the principal on graduation. Hence the source of my 150% conviction that I do not need a photo with anyone (mayor, whoever the fuck) for my success. Succeeding now, without those photos. * 1st year high - I was falsely accused by my classmate of stealing her phone. He went to the office... to slap me in public and demanded me to return it. Just because my classmate was the daughter of a business partner. My classmate's brother eventually admitted the it was a prank. Father never bothered to correct the public mistake. Even told stories of how he 'bravely' defended me. Everyone called me a theif (In tagalog, 'magnanakaw'. My nickname would be 'Magna'). Spent 3 years in highschool talking to no one. And I mean NO ONE. Was writing to a notebook all my thoughts talking to myself having imaginary conversations inside my head and writing it down. And since this was my development stage, you can bet your ass I'm totally lacking in social skills. Like bruh I do not know how to build relationships or things like that. * 3rd year high - I finally got to clear my name by myself. My being cute helped a lot. Then my bitch mother got my notebook and bitched about it to my father. They're mad since I call them both pieces of shit. And as usual, he tries to play the hero. * College - all thru out my mother would berate me. How I'm just an 'IT'(IT wasn't booming then. When I chose my program I didn't know IT would boom. I just chose what I truly wanted) and my sisters (golden childs) are in the medical field. * College 1st year. I wanted to get my money from my father. We didn't have allowances, I had to carry books around for rich kids to get mine. What I earned, he said he would keep until I asked for it. Guess what happened when I asked for it? NEVER GOT IT. He then went to my uni and talked to the dean. About how I was about to spend my life savings on shit. Yes he had to make up this sympathetic story about how he was a fucking great father and all. My name just had to be paged on the whole uni. His goal? Just to humiliate me. How do I know? Proudly explained it and even planned to do it to my brother. * after 2.5 years working and giving 10,000 pesos to them monthly (50% of salary) I met someone. A girl I really liked and gave me letters and all. Like shit she was the one. So ofcourse I bring her home and all. After a few visits from her I noticed my parent's toxic behavior. They didn't meet her when she came. No food. Nothing. When my mother sees her she acts like she sees a ghost and runs to my father reporting that my so is at the home as if there's an intruder. I knew something was up. Me and my ex made sure we bought our own food, water, utensils when eating in my room. Just so my parents couldn't say we're ungrateful or anything. I talked to my parents and we agreed that if they didn't like her, then just don't be toxic and all.
One faithful night when me and my ex came home with takeout food preparing for night shift work from home. my mother started screaming in tagalog. Take note that we are a chinese family. We speak chinese at home with each other. All of a sudden, by magic, she starts screaming in tagalog about the chores, about the dishes, about anything she could scream about. Then slams her fists on my door for no reason. So pretty obvious she wants attention. We ignore her and she escalates. Now I leave my room and confront her. She screams my ex's name and charges her. Since I am over 200 lbs I shove her pretty effortlessly. Whole thing ends when my brother talks ot my mother. Ex decides she needs to leave asap. She hasn't eaten her food bought with her own money. At this point I am fucking pissed. The absence of hospitality. The behavior. The screaming when we agreed that we don't bump each other's way. This was the point I considered my mother dead to me.
The epiphany about my father, and his role in all this, also came that night. As my ex was leaving, he immediately blames the whole fiasco on me. About how I started it. How it's my fault. Gaslighting the situation immediately. At this point I realize that the both of them was the source of the family's dysfunction. I immediately stop giving them money and moved out ASAP. Calls started asking for money. How I was ungrateful.
After a year of renting a condo. I decided to resign from work and rest abit. I was about to hop for x3 pay. I was preparing for the interview and all that. Then I overheard by the door my father proudly talking shit about me to my other siblings about how I got no money left which is why I went back home (I was about a million peso in hidden net worth then).
Another event while I was reading alot for my programming exam. He comes to my room and asks what I'm doing. I say I'm studying, didn't say what for. He then berates me again that what I'm studying doesn't have a diploma. I let it slide. But i do not forget.
Technical video interview comes and it lasts less than 20 minutes and offer was sent with my asking price almost immediately. Now I get paid the highest. Like this is the thickest bundle of money I've ever held 2 inches fucking thick. Eldest sister? Fucking jobless. 2nd eldest sister? Slaving in US, can't save anything. My brother? Almost 7 years in college now. Failed hard.
Now they want my money. NOW THEY WANT MY MONEY. Now they want my fucking money. Mother is telling stories to her sisters about how she's a great mom and all asking for sympathy. My aunts are now messaging me re:forgiveness and all that bullshit. About there's only one mothefather. My uncles on my father side is also saying the same shit. I kept quiet all these years and now that I am succeeding in life they want my money? Now I want to know, with honestly, frankness and zero bullshit... AM I THE ASSHOLE? Am I the asshole for deciding not to support them after all their shit? Am I the asshole for having this level of conviction against them? Is the 'you only have one parent' argument valid? Would it be valid to victims of incestous rape? Why would it be valid in mine?
If you read it all and made it here. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Fuck. I need answers. I need a drink.
EDIT: Thank you all. I was expecting a 50/50 debate arguing "but they fed you" and all that. Was surprised with SHP obviously NTA. Growing up in that kind of environment clouded my view on what the 'norm' was. It was not obvious to me. And now I bask. Thank you.
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The Longest, Craziest, Convoluted Proposal Ever - Part 1

Hi Reddit, this is my first time posting but I’m dropping a novel. I know this is going to be reeeally long, but if you want the cliff notes version, I’ve flagged the must-read parts and shortened sections with [BRIEF] [/BRIEF].
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So in this story, I’m basically going to share my proposal idea, the motivation behind it, the planning and lead up, and finally the proposal itself in detail. I’m going to apologize in advance that I just wasn’t able to shorten the last section, the actual proposal. I didn’t want to cheapen you out of the whole thing.
Just microwave some popcorn or bust out a good bottle of wine (hopefully not both) and scroll on down…
*Note that some names have been changed.*
My Little Idea…
This story starts with a little idea I had, what if a marriage proposal can be more? What if I can take something simple, expected, traditional, and wildly complicate it with my unchecked creative energies and morph it into some over-bloated convoluted monstrosity altogether? A bit excessive yes, but hey at least it’s original. Plus who can argue that an engagement marks the end of your bachelorhood and serves as a transitionary phase to married life? It’s a big deal. But before I make that leap, I think I just wanted to go out with a Big Bang by creating a memory that we can treasure and share forever.
Context
Now for some context…
Brit and I had talked about marriage for a long time, so it was never a question of “if” but “when” it was going to happen. But simply counting down the days before popping the big question isn’t really my idea of fun. Honestly, I never found my responsibility as the proposer of buying the ring, and deciding where, to be all that exciting of a role. To be frank, I find it over done and just… lazy. Now given the choice, Brit might have opted to just have that vanilla proposal experience, but not me. I also realize that this is the one part of the whole wedding process where I and I alone, can sit in the director’s chair and call the shots. You bet, I was going to milk every bit of that.
The Project
The Project, was the working title for this… project. It’s what I used to refer to it when I had to make excuses to Brit like going out to far away places to set up the bits and pieces of the proposal project. And to be sure there were tons of components for this project... like scouting locations, buying props, setting up mini games, coordinating with my assistants and actors (yes there were actors too), or even when I was out ring shopping too.
Me: “Babe I’m going to have to go to California again this weekend and no you can’t come.”
Her: “But why?”
Me: “Because of The Project I’m working on.”
Her: “Oh in that case, ok!” *wink*
See how convenient it was? There was never a need for too many questions, once the magic words have been casted. I think we had a mutual understanding for her to never pry too hard because this Project was ultimately going to lead to a big surprise, and it was going to be well worth it at the end. Did she know what I was doing? Without a doubt! Of course she did, because like I explained, there was a never a question on if a proposal was going to happen but when. Now with The Project, I added another dimension to it with how. Because I’m controlling not only the when but also the how, I knew that I was capable of mustering a truly unique and memorable proposal experience for her.
[BRIEF]
Setting Up The Proposal
So how was the proposal setup?
I basically presented it to her as a game. She gets a box (more like a safe) in the beginning of the whole thing, requiring an 8 digit password to open. The catch is, each individual digit is hidden somewhere and she’s required to find all of them, with the help of clues and riddles and other games along the way. So as you may have guessed, when she gets all 8 digits, she can open the box which she’s promised to get something “very valuable” inside.
So its kind of like an escape room/amazing race/scavenger hunt all in one!
Quests And Their Meaning
I designed the game around getting those 8 digits and finding each digit is a “quest” all on its own (that I guide her through). I tried to pick places to hide them in, that have some significance to our relationship. Each quest also involved mini games and sometimes friends and family participation. Quests pay homage to where we’ve been, while the entire game leads up to a proposal and paves the way to where we’re going.
[/BRIEF]
Game Intro
I’ve included the original message I wrote to her to introduce her to the game...
“This is basically an introduction to something that I call The Project. I know that I’ve dropped that name a few times and you’ve probably wondered and speculated all kinds of things about it. Well guess what, they were probably all wrong. Or maybe didn’t really capture the full scope of what The Project is all about!
Basically, I feel that life is an adventure. In that adventure, we’re tasks with quests, big and small. Whether that’s getting a degree, a job, hunting for a good place to eat, or finding the perfect mate, life is made up of all kinds of quests and we are the players.
I’ve created a game for us to play that will set us off on our own adventure. Let’s call it…. I don’t know… The Heartsfinity Quest! It will pay homage to where we’ve been in our relationship and at the end, maybe give us insight on where we are going. This is a game that we’ll play over the course of a month or two, but it honestly just depends on how long it takes us.
So here’s how it works:
You’ll start out with a box that I will give you right now. This box contains something very special inside, so keep it safe! But this box has a passcode that you need to enter before you can open it. That passcode is made up of 8 digits and they’ve all been scattered. So your quest is to find them one by one. But fear not! Clues will be revealed to you along the way, so be on the look out for them. Remember, getting the passcode is the only way to open the box and find the treasure within.”
Game Rules
Here are the rules of the game that I gave to her on the day that we started it, and it was when I also gave her the locked Heartbox.
Rules and Expectations:
1. You’re given a passcode protected box called The Heartbox.
2. You’ll be given 8 clues to find all 8 digits. Each digit will be written on paper tabs and these shall be referred to as Heartnumbers.
3. If you get stuck trying to find a Heartnumber, you can use a Heartline for help.
4. You will be given 3 Heartlines at the start of the game.
5. Each Heartline is different. There’s three types:
-Heartline Clue: Will give you an additional clue on how to find the Heartnumber.
-Heartline GPS: Will give you GPS coordinates of the physical location of the Heartnumber.
-Heartline Reveal: The Heartnumber is revealed to you.
6. Be ok with traveling to retrieve Heartnumbers.
7. Always keep everything with you when we’re together. The Heartbox and the Heartnumbers that you’ll be finding has to be with us during the full duration of the game. If you can’t keep them, then I keep them.
8. No force entry into the Heartbox, or entry of any means beyond the expectation of this game.
9. The Heartbox shall be kept visible but safe in a common area (like your living room) during the duration of the game. Just don’t stash it away or hide it somewhere.
9. No pleading or pressuring me to reveal Heartnumbers, to give more clues, or to “rush” this whole thing already.
10. There is no guarantee that any question asked regarding the game, even those meant to clarify something, will be answered. This prevents unauthorized hints or clues.
11. Give at least 48 hours before retrieving the next Heartnumber once you’ve retrieved the lastHeartnumber, unless otherwise stated.
12. Not all Heartlines can work for all Heartnumbers. More details to come on which Heartline you can use for which Heartnumber.
13. The game will be on going once it begins. The duration of the game is indefinite and will only end once the box has been opened and the treasure retrieved.
Game Cards
To make it more fun and to give it more of that “game feeling”, I made sure to give her 3 bonus game cards (Heartline) from the start to help her if she’s ever stuck on any quest. These three cards are:
  1. Heart Clue: Will give her an additional clue if she’s ever stuck on any part of a quest.
  2. Heart GPS: Will give her the GPS coordinates of the Heartnumber (a passcode digit for the safe) itself.
  3. Heart Reveal: Will give her the Heartnumber directly, without having to go out and fetch it.
So out of the 8 numbers, she really only had to hunt 6 of them as the two cards essentially gave them away.
Spoiler alert: During the course of the game, she would win more Heart Reveal cards (through side quests I had setup) so at the end, she only had to do 5 quests (not 8) to open up the Heartbox (the locked safe).
Timeline
The whole entire game was supposed to take 1-2 months. Each quest had to be set up and prepared and hunting clues or Heartnumbers meant traveling to literally anywhere, even in other states. So this is a proposal project definitely not for the impatient. But did it really need to take that long?
Yes because partly, I was buying time. I didn’t have the ring yet and needed some time to save the funds and choose a proper rock. This complicates things because I had promised her the year before that I was going to propose sometime in 2019. She just didn’t know that it was going to be late in 2019. It took me that long simply because I wasn’t able to buy the ring as early as I had hoped. I needed a few more months but by then it would already be Fall and I knew she was going to feel like she’s being lead on all year. So I thought that giving her something (this game) to occupy her on the latter half of 2019, would take some pressure off me!
Knowing that the proposal couldn’t be any earlier than the Fall, I decided to double down on the Fall theme and just totally embrace it. I knew that I could use the timing as an opportunity for a dramatic proposal. I imagined backdrops of forests, with falling yellow and orange leaves. I began researching and scouting different places. All of this took time and this was probably the time when I had to use up most of my “working on The Project” excuses. I settled on a patch of forest on top of a mountain in Flagstaff (one of her favorite cities in the world) called Aspen Corner where predictably, Autumn-friendly aspens grow aplenty.
The Point Of The Game?
Yes there is a point. Other than wanting to have an original idea for the sake of the bar story points, I wanted her to clearly see how much time, effort, and work I’ve put into it. That, would be part of her “gift”; and that yes, she was worth all of that. If you have the money (not that I do), it’s easy to just buy a ring and propose. There’s almost no way to screw up a proposal unless you seriously miscalculated on the choice of rock or setting. But truly caring about something may require that you sacrifice a lot more than money. And I believe that my proposal and how I chose to carry it out was my commitment to that ideal.
Quest 1
[BRIEF]
I introduced the game to her at R&R, the restaurant where we had our first date. I gave her the password-protected safe (whimsically called The Heartbox) and explained the rules for the game. We also embarked on the first quest and she managed to find the first digit (Heartnumber) at a nearby park outside the restaurant, following her first clues which was to retrace the footsteps we took on our first date.
[/BRIEF]
I wanted to start the whole game at the same place our relationship began, at the R&R bar restaurant in Old Town Scottsdale. We ordered our meal and when we were finished, our waitress delivered our surprise “check”, a little wrapped box on a plate. (I had arranged all of this with the manager beforehand). This was all for show because even though it looked like I was giving her a ring inside that box, I really wasn’t. I feigned it on purpose, and it’s to give the idea of a proposal but not deliver one. This was ultimately part of a much bigger proposal plan after all.
Anyway in the box, the instructions and intent of the game was given, (see the game rules at the above section) along with her first clue on how to find the first Heartnumber*. The clue just asked her to retrace our steps on our first date. She knew that meant to go to the park after the restaurant. At the park, we walked around a bit until she saw a balloon floating over a park bench, with a my special Heartsfinity symbol** drawn on it. I had taped a tiny ring box behind the bench, and right under the balloon. Inside, was the first Heartnumber. She was quickly hooked and was excited to go on the next quest! I told her that these things take time and the whole game was going to take place over a long period of time but don’t worry, the next clue was coming!
Sometime after the first quest was over, I decided to discreetly deliver the second clue at her house when she wasn’t home. I wanted her to discover it taped on her garage door as she was pulling into her driveway back from work. As an added touch, I included a single long stemmed rose and taped it all together to her garage door. Must have looked funny to the neighbors! (As an added fun little fact, I gave her a long stem rose on our very first date so this was an easy reference to that.)
The clue stuck to that garage door basically hinted at our second date, inspiring her to think about where we went on that day to begin the second quest.
\Heartnumber is the special name I gave to the digits she needs to find. Note that many terms in this game will have a preface of “Heart”.*
\*Heartsfinity symbol looks like two hearts taken together and stuck at their points, creating an infinity symbol but with hearts! It’s the de facto symbol for this game.*
Quest 2
[BRIEF]
Took place at a South Mountain hiking trail, where we went on our second date. I had a friend (Don) play a “mountain troll” to block the trail path and deliver a riddle. She must answer the riddle to continue on the path. She did, and was rewarded with a clue (a map and a picture of the exact site that the 2nd Heartnumber was buried. She uncovered it and also found a clue to start the 3rd quest.
[/BRIEF]
After getting the next clue on her garage door, she narrowed the next quest location to a South Mountain trail, the very trail that we climbed on our second date…only I had a special surprise waiting for her there. I had arranged this for several days prior with a friend, Don, and I had assigned him to play the role of a mountain troll to block the path before us. He’ll give her a test, in the form of a riddle that I had written, and she must answer it correctly to continue on the path.
As we approached the trail on the day of, we spotted Don crouching on top of a giant bolder looking menacing. Wow this dude actually showed up in full costume, and definitely in character! He jumped down from the boulder and unfurled a scroll which he had printed the riddle on, along with browning the parchment, and burning the edges. It was convincing and he deserved some stickers for the effort. Anyway the parchment reads…
“I’m neither animal, person, plant or thing,
but I thirst for water from rivers to bring.
If I had skin it would be red, brown, and dirty.
If I had hair it would be green, sharp, and spiky.
But I gave you life, and you live in me,
though at certain times, it can be agony.
I am with you every day,
you breathe my air as you lay.
From sunrise to sunset,
and oh how pretty can those get.
What am I?”
Brit got it on the third try, the answer was “Arizona.” The troll gave us a treasure map with X marks the spot, and gave her the choice of her next clue. Either she gets a picture of the site so she can find it easily once we reached the general location on the map, or she can opt to hear the hidden artifact chiming as she draws near to it (this is achievable by the use of a Tile tracker that I had planted with the Heartnumber when I buried it earlier.)
She chose the picture option, and then we continued on the trail. It didn’t take long for her to find the spot, especially with the help of the many arrows and Heartsfinity symbols that I had drawn out on the rocks along the path with a permanent marker days before. Don’t report me people, how permanent can permanent markers be anyway when exposed to the elements??
Continuing the hike up, we finally got to the spot. She recognized it immediately from the bonus picture clue that the troll gave her. The Heartnumber was in a small box wrapped inside a sandwich bag (I thought it needed some light weather proofing in case of rain). I was relieved to know that it was still under the stacked rock pile that I had left it under a few days ago. Thank God nobody bothered to loot it or mess it up (a constant thing to worry about with setting up scavenger hunts like these). This was a public trail after all. Inside, she found the second Heartnumber and we made our way back down the mountain… but not before some well deserved selfies with the troll, and her sisters (Maggie and Krystal) at the Heartnumber site. Yeah, they ended up following us half way through the hike up because, curiosity.
Quest 3
[BRIEF]
All of this was in California. The first part was done at my family’s house and they all had their part in it. She had to translate some writing in Tagalog, and learn some phrases from hearing my family. She then needs to parrot it back again in decent Tagalog, and find out that she’s actually asking permission to dig up a spot in the garden. In that spot, a box was buried containing two wine glasses, serving as the next clue. She immediately knows that this could only represent our favorite winery in the area so we set out for it immediately. The 3rd Heartnumber was placed in the gazebo out in the back of the winery.
[/BRIEF]
The next clue for the 3rd quest came shortly after the hike down from South Mountain, as Don had stuck a card on our windshield as he headed out from the parking lot before us. The card simply stated the next quest was going to be far away, and it’s the only place in California that I’ve taken her that I know she truly loves. Other than that, no other clue was given.
She narrowed it down to three possible spots, but either way she knows it’s going to be somewhere in California. So we arranged a trip there (a 7 hour drive), back to my family’s house. When we got there she found a card written in Tagalog, waiting for her in the room she’ll be staying in. This was her next clue. She smartly chose to use Google translate to find out the card welcomes her to the house and instructs her that she will approach each member of my family as everyone has a role to play in this part of the quest. The card states that during the next morning when everyone is awake, she will approach my mom who will say a part of a sentence in Tagalog to her. Her job is to write down phonetically what is being said. She will then approach my aunt and my grandma and do the same with them. Once she’s pieced together the sentence, she may look up the translation but more importantly she has to practice saying it as perfectly as possible and deliver it to my uncle who will then decide whether it’s intelligible enough so she can continue to the next part. The phrase in English is, “Where is the shovel because I need to dig something up outside of the house?”
After piecing together the sentence, she practiced it and finally recited it in Tagalog to my uncle. After approving it, he then gave her the shovel she needed to dig out the next clue from the garden. Note that during the previous night while she was sleeping, I had dug up a spot in our garden to hide the next clue and I had marked it with a Heartsfinity symbol arranged with white stones for easy spotting. She dug up the clue and found my buried box containing the two wine glasses. She immediately knew that it could only mean going to the Agua Dulce Winery because that’s where the Heartnumber for this quest must be.
Upon our arrival to the winery, I immediately noticed that the little box that I had left for her to find, was now missing. It was early in the morning and nobody was there so it was probably stolen or thrown away the night before. That box contained the Heartnumber and was the whole point of going to this winery and California. Unfortunately I just didn’t bring any of the materials from Arizona to make a replacement here. Plus I was not about to tell her that we came all the way here for nothing, even though someone else did steal the Heartnumber box. So I had to improvise.
As she explored the area, I hastily wrote something on a piece of paper and left it under the gazebo behind the main building. Whatever excuse I was going to write had to look like it’s still “part of the game”. Breaking the 4th wall is a no no for me. She eventually finds the note, opens it, and learns that the card is basically an apology to her from the “courier service” saying that the 3rd Heartsnumber never made it to California, but that it will be waiting for her again in AZ. I was going with it and trying to have fun here because at this point I needed to just wing it.
I decided to really flesh out the lore behind this whole thing. There were magical courier services now, tasked in delivering and planting these Heartnumbers. And if there were couriers, there must be a corporate structure behind it and that means customer service agents and overly polite professional emails and the whole shebang. I worked in customer service so I know how these things are suppose to sound. This is a follow up email to her from Heartsfinity Customer Service after the California quest fiasco.
“Hello Brittany,
Thanks for reaching out to Heartsfinity Care, where it is always our pleasure to serve you along your Heartsfinity Quest!
We apologize that there were issues with the delivery of your 3rd Heartnumber. Unknown to us at the time, unfortunately there were immigration issues with one of our Heart Fairy causing them to be stopped by Border Patrol on the way to California. This is no one else’ fault but our own and we regret that you did not have a stellar experience in your 3rd Quest because of it. Making every Quests fun, exciting and engaging for you is what we strive to do and we hope to be better at that in the future. You should be getting your 3rd Heartsnumber soon and your 4th Heartsclue is already being processed and will be sent out shortly.
Also yes, we’ve updated your address in our system and you should be getting all future Heartmail directly to your address without having them go to your boyfriend first.
Thanks again for your patience, and good luck on your next Quest!
Sincerely,
Heartsfinity Care Team”
As stated by the email, the backstory that I was able to come up with on the spot was that the “fairy courier” who was tasked in delivering the Heartnumber never made it across the AZ-CA border and was intercepted by Border Patrol on the way. (Because she was illegal. Yep.) Therefore, the Heartsfinity Company (the fictitious company who I’ve hired to coordinate this scavenger experience) apologizes for the mishap and promises to fast deliver the Heartnumber directly to her when we get back to Arizona.
Turns out this is not the last time she’d hear from Customer Service too. I will end up using this approach and using this fake company several times in the later parts of this whole thing, to advance the game and the lore when I saw fit.
Find the next part to continue the story!
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An invitation for you, YES YOU!

Hello Reddit friend. I saw your posts regarding #OustDuterte. My name is Loud, a long-time hater of Du30 and his antics. My profilehead may look like I'm not serious, but I mean business. I thought of this kasi pagod na ako na nakaupo lang tapos nagrarant online. I feel like the need to do more. I'm enraged with this situation. I want to suggest something that we can all do during quarantine to help people stay woke about the situation on the government shenanigans and failures. We know we have already conquered Reddit in some way. Most people on the platform understand that Duterte is the prick, he's the source of all stupidity and clownery . We know we can get the message accross to anyone dito sa Reddit. Yet we must communicate this message not only here, but in our nearby communities as well. Kasi mostly sila yung walang alam about sa katotohanan about kay Duterte at mga kabobohan ng gobyerno. Yung iba pa na mamamayan, walang proper friendlist sa Facebook per say (kasi puno ng DDS propaganda ang laman at namamanipula pa sila). I think we should all do it collectively, my proposed plan, and I'm finding people to do it with me, cause this is one of the things I think might work right now, too.
Since we cannot do anything as of the moment kasi quarantine, as much as I want to do the People Power, I don't want you to get in trouble or die because of an eerie foreshadowing of a possibility of a Martial law, we must fight at home! We cannot risk harming our families because of the coronavirus. Facebook, a good platform to rant the injustices of the government, has so much rules now about politics posting so it's very hard to do ads without funding or dodging the regulations, its harder and maeffort.
I've thought of a plan that almost anyone with a voice can do, literally and figuratively hahaha by making like a collective group of local radios//announcement satelittes, in a form of communicating through home microphones like Magic Sing, Platinum Karaokes, kahit deRenta, you name it!
I noticed people at my town aren't really using their karaokes at home now. Streets are quiet. Everyone is at home and no one will leave entirely because lockdown. Alot of them looking at the window waiting for something anticipating the night. They're stuck listening to us if ever. If they ever get annoyed or report us, no one would bat an eye much kasi politicians are lazy to go outside, too. Why not use these microphones and speakers as a medium to communicate news, unbiased, pede biased na rin, neutral sounding, non threatening, Tagalog and charismatic way dapat, para icommunicate sa mga tao ang Duterte regime, maganda citing news articles. Kahit kumanta pa kayo pang entertainment. Why though? You may ask. Kasi I noticed, with social media, the DDS can mute you, they can block you, unfriend you and even report you,
Buuttt with microphones at your own home, wala masyado mangengeelam, even if people dont listen continously to your bantering sa microphone, THE CITIZENS WILL HEAR IT, AND THE BRAIN WILL REGISTER IT kasi Pilipino pa, they love gimmicks and chismis!! Kaya please give it a consideration, keep it a secret too (baka maunahan tayo ng DDS mob)
i-DM mo sa supporters ng country (not ni Duterte hahaha) mga friends mo na gusto makijoin na pede gumawa tayo segments,scripts, songs for entertainment on their free time, no sapilitan, suggest them rin share the idea. Kahit maliit lang to na bagay ang laki ng change na magagawa lalo na kung may isa na malaki sound system na maiicommunicate ito. I'm really fed up of this regime!
Kasi I know too na you guys are worried about Youtube, Facebook live etc. kasi pag don nagupload mattrace, kita ang mukha...baka mamob pa, i-put down ang uploads, shame on public, posts messages, pero pag microphones, sure bet nasigaw mo na lahat ng nasabi mo di ka na mag-aalala kung nabasa ba ng tita, lolo, kaibigan mo kasi damn narinig na nila! I don't know if this plan will work but here's the server I made and join me here just in case for brainstorming and ideas = https://discord.gg/nuEajB. Salamat for reading my long message! <3 post your suggestions her eon what we can broadcast through our speakers and mics
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"Kapit lang" when the tides are strong

This is a Tagalog phrase we have here meaning "hold tight" or "keep holding on". I bring this up because today my monsters are stronger and this is the only thing I can really do. Kapit lang.
Yesterday, I had a very good day but tonight is a little more challenging. I am overwhelmed with the fear of disappointment. You know that scary shadow that follows you around when things look brighter than it has been in a long time and you are afraid of something taking away your light? That one. It's been following me around today.
I am overcome with worry of relapse, or that this change is an illusion that my Q wants us to believe in so that he can get away with hiding his drinking and more lies. I know this is betting for the worst and I don't want to but it's there. He seems to be in a good place right now, too good that I'm scared of what lies beneath. I know I should be grateful but I'm more scared than anything else.
My next meeting is tomorrow but until then, I just need to keep repeating: kapit lang. Whether or not this is real or an illusion and whether or not he sticks to sobriety or relapses is not in my control.
Tonight I ask for your thoughts and prayers and your hand to "kapit" onto. To whoever is being followed by these same dark clouds, kapit lang. We are on this boat together. We are stronger together.
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JNMom creates a birth plan for her adult daughter...

Hello all! Some of you might remember me from my CrazyBells tales in JustNoFamily. I promised to eventually post about my JNMom and here I am!
I spent the last few months lurking and trying to decide whether to post here, post on RBN or cross-post; turns out I'm too lazy to cross-post and her most recent activity places her squarely here. I have a few different rough drafts and plans for how to properly introduce her but I'm just going to dive in and tell you all about her latest boundary crush.
My DH and I currently rent my parents' (JNM & SF) basement suite. Horrible, terrible idea. Don't do it. Anyway, I'm home sick dealing with a severe lung infection when I wake up to my SF yelling at JNM. SF is a super quiet, calm, loving person, although he's turned into a bit of an Enabler to survive living with her; hearing him yell means something bad is going down. In the interest of protecting my sick-self from alerting JNM to my presence, I quietly eavesdropped from the connecting stairwell. (I'm not proud of this and I don't do this often. In my defence, super sick. I swear I nearly burst a lung trying not to cough and give myself away to the family dog.)
She designed a birth plan. For ME. Without any input from the supposed uterus. Again, me. Without a fetus. Without a timeline for a fetus. Without any indication a pregnancy was even being considered. Oh and it's 12 pages long. Double-sided.
SF, mild enabler though he is, found said birth plan (BP) and flipped out. SF has almost always had my back growing up; his enabler habits have only developed in the last nine years as his depression grew deeper. He's aware of these ETics (enabler-tics) as I call them and does his best to catch himself or apologize when they affect me or my DH. SF knows I spent years terrified of having my own children because I thought I'd turn out like JNM. He knows if/when I do have kids, JNM will be on a severe info diet. She most definitely will not be in a position to advise or direct a birth plan.
I stayed out of the fight but allowed the family dog (technically he's mine but JNM won't give him back - a story for another time) to creep downstairs. Seriously, when the dog disappears every time you lose your temper, you really need to re-evaluate your life choices. By the time JNM left to go shopping, SF was in the process of shredding the BP. I managed to skim over 1-page before he got it through the shredder. Some choice bits include: (my reactions in italics - well, hopefully. I'm on mobile.)
I personally think it's a good thing I only saw 1-page. Knowing my JNM she covered everything right down to who I could associate with during my pregnancy, what I could eat, and how often I could talk to my "other" family (my dad). There's no doubt she drew up a Visitation List dividing up holidays between her and my in-laws (completely excluding my dad), considering she attempted to force one on me and DH after we got married.
I'm out of energy right now but more stories will come. I think I'll need a nickname for my mother; DH and I currently call her Bitch Queen or Psycho Bitch but I'm pretty sure both of those are taken. Can anyone suggest anything? She's filipina, Christian but only when she can twist it to suit her rhetoric, a Trump-supporter (despite not living in the US), absolutely hates anyone who doesn't agree with her 100% ("that's what friendship is!"), and has control issues out the wazoo. She's diagnosed Manic-Depressive with OCD and Narcissistic tendencies.
She's not a bad person, but she's not a good person either. I've gone VLC and NC before; I can do it again. I just don't necessarily want to.
UPDATE: My mother actually has toned down her behaviour in recent years... somewhat. She actually responds well to enforced VLC or NC when deadlines are in place. We're not actually sure when this document was created; my SF came across it while cleaning. It's possible it's years old. My mother has hoarder tendencies too so she keeps everything.
UPDATE #2: My danger meter isn't off; I know what she's capable of and what her weaknesses are. I've spent years building a support system and relationships that will tide me through anything. No one buys her bullshit anymore, not even her lawyer or family doctor. I don't ever lie to cover up my distress or make things look good anymore. I'm 29 and I have someone else legally listed as Power of Attorney if anything were to happen to me. I've removed everything of real value from her reach. My jobs are well-aware of all issues and I have passwords in place at work, our bank, our investments, and everything else. I've listed copies of our lease with attorneys and had them notarized. She's not a full Narc; she doesn't react with complete disdain for legalities and boundaries. She's absolutely terrified of legal recriminations.
I've listened and learned from other OPs here and on RBN and all the JustNos. This isn't my first go-around.
One thing my therapist and I spent years on were my boundaries for her, but also my boundaries for myself. How far am I willing to move in response to her behaviour? The fact is, unless she proves to be a physical danger to myself, my DH, or my future children, I'm not leaving town. This city is more my home than it has ever been hers. If others chose to put solid distance between them and their harassers, I fully support that choice, but right now, it's not a necessity by a long run.
I don't underestimate the crazy but I'm not going to live my life according to it either.
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Ontitokaaha - This week's language of the week: Alabama!

Alabama (also known as Alibamu, Albaamo innaaɬiilka in the language itself) is a Muskogean language spoken by the Alabama-Coushatta Tribe of Texas. It was spoken at the Alabama-Quassarte Tribal Town in Oklahoma, but has since died out there. There are approximately 250 speakers of the language left.

Linguistics

As a Muskogean language, Alabama is distantly related to other, more widely known, languages such as Chickasaw and Chocktaw. Among its closer relatives are the Koasati and Apalachee languages, and it is believed to have been closely related to the now-extinct Muklasa and Tuskegee languages.
Various subdivisions of these languages have been proposed, but no clear consensus has been reached outside of closely related languages and the family as a whole to provide a firm basis for positing a tree. Because of that, the possible intermediate forms will not be listed below.
Classification
Alabama's full classification is as follows:
Muskogean > Alabama
Phonology and Lexicon
Alabama distinguishes three vowels -- /i a o/ -- phonemically (though there is a fourth one that could possibly have a phonemic distribution). These vowels are, however, contrasted in all positions for length, thus giving Alabama six phonemic vowel choices. While length is contrasted in all positions, in word-final position it is limited to specific syntactic functions. Likewise, there is a lot of variation in how the vowels are actually realized. Vowels can be nasal, but, in all but one case, nasal vowels alternate with a vowel + nasal combination and should not be considered independent phonemes. Diphthongs can result when a vowel is followed by a glide in a closed syllable; out of the six possible diphthongs, only three (/ay/, /oy/, /aw/) can be considered as phonemic, with two (/ow/ and /iw/) not known to occur at all.
Alabama has 14 consonants (5 stops, 4 fricatives, 3 resonants and 2 glides). No stops occur at the end of words in native Alabama words in isolation and thus only appear word initially or medially between vowels. Apart from the voiced bilabial stop /b/, voicing is redundant with all obstruents being voiceless while resonants and glides are voiced.
All consonants except for /b/ can form geminates, with /bb/ and /b/ being in free variation. Likewise all consonants except /b/ and /c/ (the voiced bilabial stop and the alveopalatal stop) can occur as the initial member of a two member consonant cluster, while all consonants can be the second member. Clusters do not occur in word-final position. Likewise, clusters of three consonants do not occur morpheme-internally; when they do occur due to other processes, such as affixation or compounding, they are reduced to two-consonant clusters. (Ex: ist- (instrumental prefix) + coopa ('buy') = iscoopa ('sell')). Borrowed words, however, may avoid the cluster reduction, as in katska 'blue catfish' from *kats 'cats' + -ka 'derivational affix'.
Alabama has a pitch accent, though it is not lexically significant but rather grammatically conditioned. There are two pitches, high and low, with low only being contrastive with it is immediately preceded by a high pitch sound. This often occurs within the same syllable, resulting in a falling pitch. While pitch isn't lexically contrastive, words in isolation are generally pronounced with the final syllable higher than the preceeding one, regardless of structure or word class, unless the word has an inherent falling pitch.
While it is not currently contrastive leixcally, pitch is necessary for grammatical contrasts. The interrogative mood, for instance, is marked by a change in pitch as well as nasalization of the final vowel. However, for some speakers the nasalization is so slight that the pitch pattern alone determines the indication of the interrogative mood.
Alabama syllables are divided into two types -- restricted and unrestricted. Unrestricted syllables can appear in any position, initial, medial or final, and are of the form (C)V(V). Restricted syllables are of two types -- those that end in a consonant and those that end in a cluster. They can appear as VC, VCC, CVC, CVVC, CCV, CCVV and VCC. Consonant-final syllables are restricted word-fianlly, where the consonant must be /k/, /n/, /t/ or /s/. Elsewhere /c/ adn /b/ cannot appear finally unless followed by /c/ and /b/ respectively. Syllable boundaries occur between two unlike vowels or two consonants in a cluster, even geminate consonants.
Grammar
The basic word order of Alabama is Subject-Object-Verb, though the object can be shifted to the front of the sentence. Likewise, the subject can be positioned after the verb, giving an "afterthought" intonation to the postposed subject of object. A complete sentence may often consist of no more than the inflected verb.
There are two morphologically distinct cases on Alabama nouns -- nominative and oblique. With active verbs, the fully specified noun phrases which functions as the agent is nominative, while all other noun phrases appear in the oblique. With passive verbs, it is the patient that appears in the nominative with all others in the oblique. While other inflections can occur (see below), one of these two always will.
Nouns can inflect for plural, though the uninflected noun can also serve as the plural. They also inflect for possession, taking either inalienably possessed prefixes or alienably possessed ones, depending on the noun itself. Significant semantic categories include animate/inanimate, individual/collective, alienable/inalienable and shape-position, used to reflect human postures of standing, squatting, lying and others.
Nouns are classified according to which prefix the take for possession -- the inalienable possession prefix (patient) or the alienable possession prefix (dative). Kin terms and body parts often take the patient prefixes, as they are inalienably possessed. However, there are some kin terms and body parts that do not take the inalienable prefix, see imapatayyi ('his/her granddaughter or his/her maternal uncle's daughter') as well as imalokha ('brain').
Nouns, as mentioned, mark for case. The nominative case marking is -k, while the oblique is -n. There is a marking for a locative -fa, which is always followed by the -n of the oblique, thus the oblique and the nominative are marked on every noun, coexisting with other inflections. When nouns inflect for the plural, -há is used. Some examplesa re ati ('person') versus atihá ('people'). Along with the locative suffix, which denotes what has the locative relationship (where the thing is at, or on, etc.), there are several locative prefixes that are marked directly on the root of the verb or the noun. These are a-/ay 'at', pa- 'on', on- 'upon' (mostly replaced with pa-, ita- 'down', iba- 'with', o- 'in/into water'.
And example of how these come together with the locative is: takkolcobak ayolimpafan *pa*anááhobi ('There is an apple on the table/There are some apples...'). Here, fa is the locative suffix relating the the bale is the thing they're on, where as pa- expresses the meaning 'on' and appears on the verb. Other ways can appear, such as pa- appearing on the noun itself, or it can appear on the noun or verb, or just the verb (without the locative on the noun; generally for a stative meaning). Another example is the verb for 'to drown', which was derived from ilit, 'to die', by prefixing the o- meaning 'in/into water', giving oyelit.
Nouns can also be derived. Some of the affixes used for this are -osi, a diminutive as in taata 'father', but taatasi 'paternal uncle' (lit. 'little father'); ifa 'dog', ifasi 'puppy' ; -ka, a 'derivational affix' for borrowed words when used in a syntactic construction -- the borrowed bil ('Bill', borrowed name as term of address), but bilka coopati 'Bill bought it'; compounds (formed as adjective-noun as in ocabaski 'pecan', from oca 'nut' + baski 'long'; noun-noun, ittobihi 'bow' from itto 'wood' + bihi 'gun'; as well as noun-verb hasissobayka 'clock' from hasi 'sun' + ist-sobayka 'instrumental-known').
Alabama pronouns have three persons: first, second and third. The third person has zero representation in the agentive and patient, but has overt representations in the dative. First and second persons distinguish singular and plural forms, while the third person does not. These independent pronouns are generally used disambiguation and emphasis. The chart of independent pronouns can be seen below.
Person Singular Plural
First ana posna ~ kosna
Second isna hasna
Third ibisna ibisna
There are a total of four sets of agentive pronomial affixes -- two affirmative and two negative (allomorphs of each other, and clearly historically related). The third person doesn't mark on the verb, and thus will not be represented on the table below. The positive agentive affixes are:
Person is-set ci-set
First singular -as, -li -aa, -li
Second singular is- -ci
First plural (h)il- -(hi)li
Second plural has- -haci
The negative affixes are seen below (accent marks represent pitch)
Person Negative affixes
First singular (t)ák, ká
Second singular cík, cikí
Third singular ík, kí
First plural kíl, kilí
Second plural hacík, (h)acikí
Third plural ík, kí
Likewise, there are patient prefixes, used when the pronomial form is the object of a transitive verb. Some examples of these being used are 'cahallo' (Do you hear me?) and 'cilhiicati' (We saw you). Furthermore, pronomials also have dative prefixes, for all persons and numbers. These can be seen below
Person Singular Plural
First am- pom-, kom-
Second cim- hacim-
Third im- (aatim-)
The Alabama verb is inflected for person, number tense/aspect, negation and mood. There are two types of verbs -- active and stative. Active verbs may be either transitive or intransitive. The pronomial affixes (mentioned above) can be prefixed, infixed or suffixed, with verbs being classified to the type and position of the affix. Some examples of inflected verbs can be seen below, with the affix bolded (ho used in the final example should be analyzed as a 'distributive' instead of a general pronomial prefix):
Alabama English
haaloliti 'I heard it'
haalaalo 'I will hear it'
isnooco 'You slept'
coispo 'You bought it'
hopooncilo 'You will cook it'
nooco 'He slept'
ilhaaloti 'We heard it'
coilpati 'We bought it'
hohaaloti 'They bought it'.
Alabama verbs can have several derivational affixes. Among these, the ones of most interest are -li 'active', -ka 'mediopassive' and -ci 'causative'. The majority of verbs are derived with either -li or -ka and many verb roots contain both, with -li being hte active verb stem and the -ka form representing the stative stem. This is not a hard rule, however, and there are many active verbs that terminate in -ka, take agentive affixes and lack a corresponding -li form.
The passive can be marked on the verb with infixation, -l- or -il- often being a common way to do this, as in ilbi 'is killed' from ibi 'to kill'. There is also an 'intensive infix' -h-, which can be seen in hahlo 'to hear anything easily' from halo 'to hear' (this infix can also be used with adjectives to derive nouns and verbs: nahni 'a hero, a brave man' from nani 'male'; kahya 'to overeat' from haiya 'full).
The order in which affixes apply to the verbs is variable depending on the verb class (which set of agentive pronomials it takes) as well as the type of conjugation (basic, infixed, auxiliary, etc.). The most basic order, however, is agent - verb stem - TNS. An example of this paradigm is included below (the vowel in the parentheses, the prothetic one, does not appear when the stem is preceded by the agentive prefix; notice it appears after ho-, showing that it is not a pronomial prefix):
Person Alabama English Affix markings
1sg ipalo I eat it ipa-li-o
2sg ispo You eat it is-(i)pa-o
3sg ipo He eats it ipa-o
1pl ilpo We eat it il-(i)pa-o
2pl haspo Y'all eat it has-(i)pa-o
3pl hoipo They eat it ho-ipa-o
Negatives are indicated by the presence of the negative agentive affix as well as the presence of -ki, a negative auxiliary, and/or the particle -o, a 'negative' marker. See below for the three third person constructions of hiica 'see' ('he sees' and 'he doesn't see')
Positive Negative 1 Negative 2
hiico ikhíícobi hicatíkkobi
The distinction between tense and aspect is difficult to make in Alabama, and so the two are generally grouped together (this has led some historical linguists to believe that Proto-Muskogean lacked a tense category, and used aspect and modals to convey temporal information). These affixes can be split into two groups, with some leaning more towards tense while others towards aspect, but these are not rigorous groupings and I will merge them when listing them in the table below. As can be seen, Alabama distinguishes two future times, two present ones and three past tenses, while the rest lean towards aspectual use.
Affix Gloss
-lo (definite) future
-la indefinite future
-ci continuous
-o/-bi perfect
-ti proximate time
-kha remote time
-to(ha) narrative past
-ahi intentional
-aapi/mpa durational
-co(li) credential
-colikha remote habitual ('used to do')
-coti proximate habitual ('used to doing')
-moli evidential
-alpiisa obligational
aaba censurial
The final suffix included on the verb in Alabama is one for indicating the mood. Three moods are given: declarative, interrogative and imperative. The declarative is the unmarked form, while interrogatives are formed by nasalizing the final vowel and changing the intonation (see above; sometimes the vowel is so weak that intonation is the only indicator). The imperative, which exists in a positive and negative form, is conveyed by changing intonation and placing either the distributive -ho between the root and -li/-ka (positive imperative) or by adding the verbal suffix -mna (negative imperative). Simultaenous actions can be expressed with the affix fóóka-, a 'temporal locative' affix often best translated as 'while', 'when', at the time of', etc. An example of this is akaakan ipat feelilifóókok ifakon ibiliti ('having finished eating the chicken, I killed the dog'), with the affix appearing on the verb for 'finish'.
Finally, Alabama has several 'syntactic suffixes'. Some of these, such as the case endings, have already been mentioned. But two more are -yá, which is used to topicalize nouns, as well as -t, labeled 'verb conjunction', which appears at the end of an uninflected verb that is followed by yet another verb, usually the finite one. This can have several meanings, such as 'X and X' (cokoolit compalici 'I am sitting and eating', -t is on the verb 'sit') and in combining two such as the English 'Bill finished building the table' (bilkak ayolimpan taliboo(li)t anooliti, where the verb witht he 't' represents 'build').

Miscellany

Samples

Spoken sample:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_UMZ_Qnhq8 (Biblical video)
Written sample:
Note: I am transcribing a story below. Please note that I will not indicate tone and that it will be in a modified IPA (I can't recreate some of the characters on my keyboard, for instance) due to the fact the language has rarely been written.
wahkan likonlon ittimmayeesbannatoha. "cimmayaalatolo" lakonlakok mankan wahkakok "ammaciyaabokolo" katoha. mahmimok "sancohatkaci maatalahkafayon ostokoohililolo" katoha. mahmosin "ina" katoha. mahmosin ittiilahot coffitomaali likonlakok wakaikat nakaalã wahkakaalok wakaikat obaalima atakaakatoha. tankacooton nihtoton allatok analtoha. sancohatkafakon osthacaatoha. istobaalon likonlakok wakaikat olatoha. "cimmayalo" wahkakok katoha. "immayasbannayok". hayoyahiya hikãmõca hikamõlapitcaii wawa.
(The crane and the hummingbird wanted to bet with each other. "It seems I will beat you," the hummingbird said, and (new subject) the crane responded "You're not going to beat me!" And then (same subject) "You and I will go stand yonder where there's white sand," he said. And then (different subject, i.e. hummingbird) "It's OK to me," he responded. And then (different subject, i.e. crane) coming together, even as they jumped off, that there hummingbird flew off and disappeared and (different subject) that there crane along flying behind just hung in there. Night and day he went on and on. Where there was white sand, he stood. Coming behind, that hummingbird, flying, arrived there. "I have beaten you," the crane said. "So he wants to beat him!" (the crane sang) (last line is a song, indeterminate meaning).

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☀️🐬🏖️ THE AMAZING DRAG RACE - EPISODE 2: Global Warming Who? PART 1☀️🐬🏖️

Both girls put up a strong fight, gagging the crowds with their skills and ruveals, as the lip-sync song comes to an end, Cassandra makes her way back onto the stage.
“Ladies, I have made my decision. The winner of this lip-sync, an extra point to their overall performance and an extra day to complete the next challenge is”
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“MADEMOISELLE”
The crowd cheers as Mademoiselle smiles in delight, the cast all rush around the Queen congratulating her, piles of confetti fall from the ceiling completely covering the Queens from the waist down. Cassandra arrives holding the fake plastic crown she bought off party city, she places it on Mademoiselle's head and hands her a plastic scepter. Clearly over the moon, Mademoiselle struts across the main stage posing for photos. Without interrupting Madem's moment, Del walks onto the stage with a smaller but still impressive crown and places it on Annie's head. Ecstatic to also have her own moment, Annie struts to the other side of the main stage working her magic as the program draws to an end.
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Backstage, the girls begin to de-drag, excited to head back into their hotel rooms to rest as Cassandra enters the room.
“Ladies” she begins. “I know you’re tired from all the twists and turns of this episode but I have one more twist for you.”
The girls all look at each other in confusion.
“Due to the loss of two girls in the competition. I’ve brought back one to take their place, it was quite easy to contact her since we’re in her hometown, please welcome to the race, Elle Crimson! (u/grxmes)”
Upon the call of her name, Elle struts into the room side-eyeing the rest of the girls in a stunning Jessica Rabbit like red gown.
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[ELLE CONFESSIONAL]: Hello my darlings, I’m Elle Crimson. Competitor of Reddit's Drag Race season 3, Reddit's Drag Race All Stars, Reddit’s Dragula 2, Drag Survivor 1 and 2, Big Sissy and your host of S1 remastered! Wow that was a handful.
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[CLAUDETTE CONFESSIONAL]: First Anita now Elle? Honey she’s bringing in all the pros to make this race tighter.
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“Now I’ll leave y’all to mingle bye.” Cassandra quickly leaves the room slamming the door shut.
Elle approaches the rest of the girls hugging each and everyone one of them before allowing them to continue dedragging.
“So which one of y’all knows what happened to Dixie and Amanda?” Elle asks the girls.
“I honestly don’t know. I don’t remember them leaving.” Sardonyx replies with Alexa next to her pretending she didn’t hear anything.
“DON’T REMIND ME WHAT HAPPENED!!” A loud sobbing voice can be heard, the girls swiftly turn around to see Mittens being comforted by Red X.
“What’s going to happen to me? I gambled everything on those two girls. How am I supposed to pay for all my drag?” Mittens continues to sob.
“Wait you paid for those tablecloths?” Red replies in confusion.
The girls quickly dedrag and immediately leave the room to escape Mittens whale noises echoing the concrete room.
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3:00 am PHT Manila, Philippines.
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Manila, Philippines, the first leg of the race now complete, its streets all quiet before the notorious Manila traffic arrives, the smog blanketing the entire city, a cruel reminder of man’s destruction of the planet. Annie and Mademoiselle can be seen exiting the grand Manila Hotel, both with their carry on bags ready, their running shoes on, heels tied to the side of their waists. In front of them sits a large yellow marker box holding their first clue of the next leg of the race.
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Producer: So where do you wish the next leg would take place?
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[ANNIE CONFESSIONAL]: Hopefully somewhere cold like Antarctica, this place is too hot.
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[MADEMOISELLE CONFESSIONAL]: Take me somewhere warm like the Sahara desert so I can get me a good tan.
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Both girls hold onto the envelope tearing it open in excitement reading its content out loud in unison.
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“Ladies, make your way down to NAIA Airport and book a flight down to your next destination: Cairns, AUSTRALIA! More about your challenge will be revealed in the next marker box at the airport. Good luck!
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P.S. Madem and Annie, I’ve booked your tickets so make your way down to the check-in
-xoxo Cassandra”
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Madem looks up in confusion and turns to Annie “Does this mean we should start looking for a taxi?”
Before Annie could respond, a black Limousine arrives in front of them honking at the girls before stopping. Immediately, one of the hotel staff members arrives opening the door for them.
“Exclusive ride to the Airport for Miss Mademoiselle and Miss Annie Depressant.” he smiles.
Both girls scream delight as they enter the limo.
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[ANNIE CONFESSIONAL]: Honey, if this is how they treat their challenge winners I need to win more of these.
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4:00 am PHT Manila, Philippines
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This time its Anita’s turn to leave the hotel. At first she wanders around the main entrance looking for the yellow marker box even though it clearly in front of her since the bitch forgot to wear her contacts before finally finding it. She opens the envelope and squints to read the text. The camera quickly zooms in on her smirk at the note Cassandra has left for Annie and Madem.
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[ANITA CONFESSIONAL]: This is favoritism you know, STRAIGHT UP FAVORITISM. I should’ve won that challenge. I bet those two are having cocktails in some fancy limo, cocktails that I SHOULD BE DRINKING.
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Anita looks around for any mode of transport before looking straight at the camera.
“So, do I have to find a taxi or ???” she asks the camera.
The camera nods back at Anita. Clearly pissed after a long day of “robbery” she scouts the streets to take her to the airport.
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Meanwhile at the airport, both Annie and Madem have checked in, checked their bags and are now awaiting for their flight to sunny Australia.
“I still can’t believe we won girl.” Annie begins the conversation in a tone of excitement.
“I can’t believe it too! After the stress of All Stars this is what we needed!” Madem replies in the same tone of excitement.
“I wonder what the challenge is though, I hope its an acting challenge.”
“I do too. It has to be an acting challenge, it can’t be another design one.”
Both girls continue to chat at the nearly empty gate, ecstatic of whats to come.
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4:30 am PHT Manila, Philippines
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Its now Skarlet’s turn to leave, she skims through the envelope, her mind racing around with ideas and excitement. Being the smart cookie she is, she opens up her phone and books herself an Uber.
As she waits, a clearly exhausted Anita appears. Her forehead dripping in sweat indicating her failure of finding a cab. She spots Skarlet and approaches her.
“You’ve been waiting for a while huh?” Anita asks Skarlet.
“No I just read the clue and I’m pretty excited.” Skarlet replies.
“Don’t be, there ain’t any taxis anywhere! I’ve been searching the streets and there ain’t anyone!”
“But- “ Instead of allowing Skarlet to continue, Anita wraps her arm around Skarlet, her sweat stained armpits uncomfortably close to her face.
“Trust me doll, its better to give up now!” Anita wails as she begins to sob.
Before she could continue, a small red vehicle arrives, honking at Skarlet.
“Oh my ride's here.” Skarlet quickly removes herself from Anita’s embrace, approaching the car.
“Ride???” Anita asks in confusion.
“Yep Ride. I booked an Uber.”
Anita turns to a dark red realizing her stupidity.
“Skarlet, um can I please get a ride with you? I know we don’t know each other well but-”
Skarlet quickly cuts off Anita.
“Sure get in”
Anita smiles in excitement rushing inside of the car.
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[SKARLET CONFESSIONAL]: It was the right thing to do but it was also the smart thing to do, she’ll remember my favour and pay me back.
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Meanwhile back at the airport, Annie and Madem have boarded their plane but seem to be having trouble finding their seats.
“Annie I don’t think we’re on the right plane.” Madem says as she scouts through the empty seats.
“It can’t be, they would’ve stopped us at the gate but they didn’t”
As they continue to look around, a stunning flight attendant approaches the girls.
“Miss Mademoiselle and Miss Depressant?” She asks both girls.
The girls both look at the flight attendant and nod in unison.
“Follow me.”
Both girls follow the attendant walking through the maze of barely empty seats up a flight of stairs, which confuses the girls as they’ve never been to this section of the plane before. As they arrive to the second floor of the plane the girls mouths drop to the floor in shock. Surrounding them are what appear to be little pods all separated from each other with beds inside them. The flight attendant leads them to their separate sections where the luxury doesn’t end. Inside these pods sit a large comfy double bed, a wooden side table to place ones belongings, a massive TV and a bottle of champagne left for the girls to enjoy with a note personally left by Cassandra which reads.
“Congratulations on winning the challenge, now enjoy all the luxury 1st class has to offer before Bianca cuts off the budget!”
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[MADEMOISELLE CONFESSIONAL]: Just when I thought it couldn’t get any better it has.
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5:00 am PHT Manila Philippines,
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This time Erathelle arrives on the scene all happy and excited trying to hide her disappointment on last night’s judging.
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[ERATHELLE CONFESSIONAL]: Would I dare say I was robbed? Yes. Do I think I can win this next challenge? Yes. Am I going to win this whole competition? Yes. Yes's across the board darlings, Erathelle is here to win.
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After reading the envelope given to her, Erathelle orders an Uber and awaits for her ride. unfortunately for her, Manila’s notorious traffic jams have begun, further delaying the Queen from the competition. After a couple of minutes, a new girl arrives walking out of the hotel doors looking fresh, clean and well rested. Ready for her clue.
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[SARDONYX CONFESSIONAL]: I’m feeling so calm, fresh, energized and so positive for this next challenge darling.
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Sardonyx immediately notices Erathelle waiting next to the yellow marker box and greets her fellow Dragula sister.
“Hello Erathelle! Wonderful day we’re having aren’t we?” Erathelle looks around to see the polluted city, smog circling the air covering the sun’s early morning rays.
“Um sure Sardonyx.” Erathelle smirks as she awaits for her ride.
“I’m feeling so positive today, as if mother Earth itself has decided to bless me with her powers.” Sardonyx rambles on as Erathelle listens.
“Last night, I had a dream that the challenge was a comedy one set in a land where large rabbits dominate and tiny bears dwell in the trees. The challenge was a comedy one where we had to talk about mother nature and her begging us to be set free from all the pollution we’ve poisoned her with, it was quite sad seeing her in chains like that, I tried to set her free but I didn't know how.”
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[ERATHELLE CONFESSIONAL]: Listen, I love Sardonyx to death but she’s clearly high on something. And if she's high on something this is NOT the country for it.
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Erathelle quickly turns around looking at Sardonyx in annoyance and concern.
“I’m sorry Sardonyx but what are you smoking? Is it crack? Is that what you’re smoking? This is the goddamn Philippines Sardy, you could get shot in the street by the President himself for being on drugs. I don't want that for you.”
Sardonyx calmly looks at Erathelle and replies.
“Erathelle, I only believe what the Universe has told me. Right now its telling me that Alexa is about to come out of those doors.”
Right on cue Alexa arrives approaching the other girls.
“Hey girls I-” Erathelle cuts Alexa before she can continue.
“Okay that was a coincidence, besides I’ve been waiting for too long. Where is my ride?”Sardonyx smirks. “Your ride? Its right here.”
Upon the snap of her fingers Erathelle’s uber arrives.
“Okay thats creepy Sardy, you coming?” Erathelle still a bit creeped out.
“No thanks I’m biking there, Mother Nature has already had enough problems and I’m not one of them.” Sardonyx walks towards a bike that has mysteriously popped up in the corner and bikes away.
“Okay today’s weird.” Erathelle mutters to herself.
“Erathelle do you mind if I can get a r-” Before Alexa could finish Erathelle slams the door and drives away.
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[ALEXA CONFESSIONAL]: Dammit.
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Meanwhile both Skarlet and Anita have arrived at the airport, their bags checked, wigs snatched, seats booked and are now awaiting at the gate.
“So have you been anywhere outside of the US?” Anita asks Skarlet.
“No how about you?” Skarlet replies.
“Oh honey, I’ve been around the block.”
Before they could continue an announcement echoes across the gate.
“Calling customers of flight C1701 of Cass St. Cass Airlines, please head on down to the boarding gate.”
“Oooh girl get ready to visit your 2nd country out of the US.” Anita says as she pats Skarlet on the shoulder.
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9:00 am PHT Manila, Philippines
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In a quick rundown, Alexa, Claudette, Kitty, Angelina and Elle have all opened their clues and are now on their way to the airport, unfortunately Manila’s notorious traffic jam have caught them all as they all patiently wait, some quite frustrated.
Elle can be seen inside her taxi nervously fumbling her fingers around, she looks outside her window and sees Sardonyx cycling down the sidewalk waving at her.
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[ELLE CONFESSIONAL]: I know this is my hometown and I should be used to it by now but girl Philippine traffic is the WORST.
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“Can you please find another way out of this traffic jam?” Elle asks her taxi driver.
Unfortunately for her, her driver ignores her and continues to speak on the phone in fast Tagalog, clearly arguing with his wife trying to deny her claims that there's another woman involved in their marriage.
Elle looks out of the window again and sees Kitty inside a cab taking over hers, Kitty waves at the distressed Elle as she laughs flipping her finger at her.
“Thats it” Elle grabs her bag and leaves the taxi banging the door closed interrupting the taxi driver's conversation, he tries to get Elle back inside but she instead ignores his pleas and continues to walk.
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Meanwhile Erathelle has finally arrived at the airport, running inside as fast as she can.
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[ERATHELLE CONFESSIONAL]: I wasted so much time on traffic, I don’t know if any of the other girls are here or not but I need to act FAST.
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Erathelle runs towards the tickets booth and manages to book herself a ticket, meanwhile Sardonyx also arrives at the airport, leaving her bike at the corner and calmly walks inside.
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[SARDONYX CONFESSIONAL]: That bike ride has really helped me reconnect with my inner core, its shown me how the world works in mysterious ways.
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Right behind her Alexa arrives, she sees Sardonyx and quickly runs over taking the Queen arriving at the ticket booth first.
“Hi can I get a ticket to Cairns, Australia on the next plane?” Alexa asks the lady in the booth with Sardonyx right behind her.
“Miss, fortunately for you, I have one available seat left on the plane.” the lady replies.
“YES! That’s what you get for walking so slow Sardy, fast girls like me will overtake you and send ya packing home so you better quit the hippie bullshit and start running.” Alexa brags as she does a happy dance.
“Wait a minute” the lady interrupts Alexa. “Turns out there are two seats left so your friend and can come along with you!”
Alexa stops, turning ghost pale as Sardonyx grins.
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[SARDONYX CONFESSIONAL]: Mother Nature blesses her children.
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Not too far behind Elle bursts into the airport, looking completely exhausted, she crawls to the ticket booth and pushes herself back up to talk to the lady at the booth while Erathelle, Alexa and Sardonyx watch her.
“One . . . ticket to . . . Australia please” Elle says completely exhausted.
“I’m sorry ma’am but you’ve just missed the plane, I can however book you on the next one.”
Elle turns completely red and burst into tears.
“I WAS SO CLOSE, SO SO CLOSE!!!”
Meanwhile Kitty, Angelina and Claudette arrive and stare at Elle who’s made quite the scene, crying in the middle of the airport.
“Tragic.” Kitty whispers to Claudette as she nods in agreeance, Angelina looking confused.
“Who was that one again?” she whispers to the other two.
“Elle”
“Oh”
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Producer: So what did you think of the traffic and what did you think of the other girls?
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[ANGELINA CONFESSIONAL]: I didn't think it was that bad. Honey trust me I've been through worse. So far I don't know how I feel about the girls, considering I don't know all of their names yet but I will soon and once I do, the bitch sessions begins.
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Kitty, Claudette and Angelina all book their tickets for the next flight to Australia as Alexa, Erathelle and Sardonyx head down to check in their bags. As Sardonyx's bag gets checked in, Erathelle begins to sweat bullets out of nerves.
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[ERATHELLE CONFESSIONAL]: Please oh please don't let there be any drugs in there.
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As Sardonyx's bag successfully makes it through security, Erathelle squeals in delight loud enough for the other two girls to turn around and look at her in confusion.
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"Oh I'm just excited to arrive in Australia." Erathelle tries to explain herself.
"Oh I am too." Sardonyx replies. "I can't wait to befriend all the drop bears, I know that they've been having it rough which is why they've been attacking people so I want to hold them in my arms and tell them its alright, Mother Nature is here to guide them in their own path to success."
"Um Sardy, Drop Bears don't exist." Erathelle replies pointing out Sardonyx's mistake.
"Oh, I'll hug the spiders then."
"I don't think you should do that either."
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Meanwhile Kitty, Claudette and Angelina begin to walk to their own gate while pushing Elle in a bag cart.
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"We really shouldn't be doing this, you know we can just leave her here." Angelina says to the other two girls.
"Nah, she's a fierce competitor, if we can show her some mercy, we might be able to forge an alliance with her." Claudette replies, falling back to her Drag Survivor ways.
"You know I can hear you." Elle replies. "And no, I'm not going to form an alliance with you.
"Oh." Claudette replies. "Kitty stop pushing the cart and leave her there."
Kitty stops as the 3 girls leave Elle behind.
"Wait guys, my legs aren't working. GUYS" Elle yells as she tries to grab their attention.
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[ANGELINA CONFESSIONAL]: I kinda feel bad for leaving her there but I do want to align myself with some of the other girls, I do believe Whiskers and Claudia can take me to the very end.
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Producer: Do you mean Kitty and Claudette?
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Um yes. thats what I meant.
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Back at Skarlet and Anita, both girls seem to be taking a nap in their economy seats with Anita struggling to do so.
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[ANITA CONFESSIONAL]: I just can't stop thinking about how I could be in 1st class right now, sleeping in an actual bed instead of this old cum stained seat. I SHOULD BE UP THERE NOT THEM.
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Still visibly uncomfortable, Anita shakes Skarlet awake, who has been laying down on the extra seat next to her for some additional comfort.
"Hey I wondering if you wanted to switch seats for a while? So you know we can both experience the window seat."
Skarlet knowing Anita's true intentions agrees to temporarily switch seats with the Queen.
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[SKARLET CONFESSIONAL]: The sacrifices I have to make for this hopeful alliance.
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1:00pm AEST Townsville, Australia
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Madem and Annie have finally arrived in Queensland, Australia. Both girls well rested from their comfy flight in 1st class, something they both want to experience again. Both girls strut confidently down the stairs of the plane and out to the airport like two supermodels of the world, ready to slay the runway.
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[MADEMOISELLE CONFESSIONAL]: That was such an amazing experience, who knew the staff would serve you endless champagne.
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[ANNIE CONFESSIONAL]: I still can’t believe the chef and I had a one on one talk about my food palate and ended up making me something that wasn’t on the menu.
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Both girls do the necessary requirements such as collect their bags, go through border security, pet the border security dogs and exit doors of the airport and begin looking for the next yellow marker box, they search high and low, behind every bush and potted plant hoping to find it, instead finding Cathe’s dead body until they finally find it in the bus bay. But this marker box is different to the other one, the box instead has a small screen with a single button on the side with the words “press me”. Out of curiosity, Annie presses the button bringing the screen to life.
“Hello Drag Racers” Cassandra pops up on the screen living her Steve Irwin realness in her outfit.
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“Welcome to Australia, my other hometown!” Home of the Sydney Opera House, Vegemite, Kylie Minogue, Kangaroos, Koalas, Drop Bears, scary spiders and of course, THE GREAT BARRIER REEF. Thats right ladies, today’s challenge will be set on the reef itself. You’ll be tasked on creating a little infomercial about Climate Change and its effects on our world and most importantly, the reef itself. But here’s the catch, you gotta make her funny. Make me laugh and make it interesting enough to even make Donald Trump himself change his views on global warming! You have till January 29 EST at 11;59PM to submit your stunning work. Goodluck ladies.”
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Census Results - and some extra thoughts

So here are just some of the results from the Census. Some of the questions asked have long paragraph responses that I have yet to go through , so they will be discussed later. WARNING: This post is long as fuck.

I. Demographics

On Gender:

As expected , the subreddit is mostly male dominated. [Like most subs on reddit really]. However , their are also sisters who are apart of this subreddit too - so I urge commenters in this subreddit to stop assuming that everyone is a "Bro". They could be a "Sis' too.

On Location:

This conversation in this sub is mostly dominated by a Asian-American slant , and that is also reflected in the statistics. Most live in the United States, and the rest live in Australia , Canada, with and in the UK.

On Ethnicity:

95.9% of you are Asian! 1% is black , and 5% are white.

On Age:

The majority of this sub's demographic is in the 18-24 age category. A smaller yet still a majority of the demographic is in the 25-34 category - those of you who have careers , a house , etc. A small minority is in the 35 - 44 age range. These are the people with the most life experience in this sub , and we need more of you guys on this sub. A tiny percentage are in the 13-17 age category. For those of you in this age category , although this sub gets a little bit heavy at times, please enjoy your youth when you are reading this sub!

On Employment:

The majority of this sub is employed. Some are unemployed.

On Relationship Status:

About 56% are either married , in a relationship , or engaged. 44% are single.

On Interracial:

We talk alot about AMWF couples and etc on this sub, but how many people on this sub actually have that experience? About 12.4%. So with this in mind , to the subscribers of this sub - please go out spread those asian genes :).

On Languages:

Most people speak mandarin. Some speak Vietnamese, some Korean. A small minority speak, Tagalog, Indonesian ,Punjabi, Teochew, Thai, Hokkien, Khmer, Spanish, German, etc.

II. Subreddit

On the moderation of the subreddit:

After reading the statistics from this question , it's a relieft that the moderation team is not doing a shitty job modding this subreddit. Still , we will strive to do better with the comments we have garnered from this census. 47.6% think we are doing a great job(Thanks , I'll pat myself on the back for that!), and 26.5% think "Its okay". While 12.2% think we could use some improvement. By and large though , it's a relief that everything ones that the moderation is not shitty.

On how often people go on the subreddit.

Most of our community come to this subreddit multiple times a day (36.7)%, but many come here either Multiple times a week , or Once a day. I must say , this sub is pretty addicting.

Overall Quality of the subreddit.

On a scale of " I hate this sub , AA is better" to " I love this sub" , The majority of this subreddit highly rate this sub a 8/10 (25,2%), and a even larger percent think of this sub as even better. Only 1 person on this subreddit thinks that AA is better :).

What content would people like to see more of ? 2nd image here.

Most people on this sub would like to see more discussion posts on the subreddit - so to the subscribers of this subreddit - please post your thoughts! We would all like to see what you think! Other categories of posts that people most want to see include " Media Discussion and Analysis Posts", and posts about Asian Culture.

"On Suggestions and Comments on the improvement of moderation".

Their were about 30 responses on this question , so I am not going to go through them all. I'll go the ones with the most importance , and the funny ones. Some will be shown here for for you to view.
One of your mods has a stick up his ass. I'm sure you know who it is. Don't let AI become another liberal shithole like aa.
Why thank you. To this comment I will refer you to this rule
" Leave the Partisanship at the Door: Both major political parties/cultural-movements are white-led. Asians needs to chart our own path. Both the Right and the Left have their drawbacks and strengths. If you keep harping on one party and shilling for the other, you don't get it."
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Stop banning users who have some dissenting views from the approved narrative.
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While it's okay to acknowledge problems within the AF community and point out people who actually are 'Anna Lu's (i.e white supremacy sympathizers and SJW AAPs), sometimes there is too much hate for AFs in general, and I think that takes away from the movement...also I understand recently there is been a lot of US election news, etc., but I would suggest there be more encouragement of discussion threads with interesting topics and high-quality articles... (also, I live in a mainly white community and I can see while there is a fair share of sexpat-like white guys or people just acting interested in Asian culture (anime is popular), not all white people are creeps or have 'yellow fever'....just no.
This particular comment is a constructive suggestion. It would do the sub good if we would focus less on AF hate ; I understand that their are legitimate grievances , however " Asian male problems" do not happen in isolation , but are connected with a number of larger issues Against Asians. People should understand this key issue. However , on the issue of "anti-whiteness" in this sub , I disagree. Unfortunately , many of us have lots of racist experiences in mind. What good is an Asian space if we pander to white people to try to make ourselves less threatening? Many people come here to air their experiences. We are not taking that away from them. Their was a time thousands of years ago in China when philosophies and schools flourished in regards to thoughts. This time is called the "Hundred Schools of Thought". This expression , I feel expresses what is going on in this subreddit aptly. Many of us disagree with eachother on many issues , but what is important we agree on the core issues.
Refuse alliance with ANY ethnically Anglo-American activists even if they're women.
And this comment brings us to another question we asked (Below).

Should we make the sub more amenable to non-asian allies , such as BM,BF, and WF?

Most people on this sub think that we need more non-asian allies. In fact , 73.8% do. Of this 73.8 % , 36.6% think we should have more allies , but 37.2% think that we should only make the sub amenable to these allies on a individual basis , which is something the mod team would agree to. This subreddit is a space for Asians , by Asians afterall. We did not make this subreddit for white people. They can go everywhere else on reddit. 25.5% think that we should make this sub ONLY for Asians , and I am sympathetic to that too. On the moderation front , the mod team will align ourselves with making this subreddit amenable allies on a individual basis.

On suggestions and comments about the subreddit in general

Again, many comments were given here , so only a select few will be aired here.
Sometimes it feels too negative, and focused on WMAF just for existing. I think it's healthier for us to balance it with more positive things (AMWF and self improvement), along with calling out the negative things we face.
Some people have complained that the topics are too limited to members whining about WM/AF. That is a problem but we certainly distinguish ourselves from Asian Masculinity by actually having thoughtful discussions about Asian culture, Orientalism, the modern geopolitics of Asia etc. But at the same time, its a problem because those threads hardly get any engagement, while threads about WM/AF or blatant racism instantly get 50 comments. I also think that in addition to our twitter and email campaigns, we should be figuring out a way to cater to Asian social media. I understand that's hard considering not many of us couldn't speak our Native Languages, but at the very least try.
If posting AMWF/AFWM, I'd rather it be constructive with an argument rather than rage
As moderators , we have also seen many AMWF and WMAF posts. We can also feel your sentiments about this. Therefore , the moderation policy of this subreddit will be changed in the coming days. To improve our content , AMWF and WMAF posts on the subreddit that are submitted on the sub will be changed to require an accompanying analysis. We will not simply accept any AMWF or WMAF post on the subreddit that include links to outrage links , pictures , etc.
should have a videochat room. try tinychat.com easy to see whos a non-asian troll, whos serious, and whos mentally unhinged.
If one of the individuals on the subreddit would like to form a videochat room , we would most welcome it - and we'll post a link on the sidebar.
I believe that asian identity should be a place to discuss asian identity, interaction with other identities should be done elsewhere, or on specific post, maybe invite black movement people to post on the sub once a month.
Perhaps on our new sub: AsianLounge?
Be more open-minded to alternative hypotheses for the social discrepancies we observe, especially when they're supported by science, specifically innate genetic differences between the races and the sexes.
This is also called , Race Realism. This is also known as Racism, biological determinism ("race realism" and "human biodiversity") which are neither socially acceptable nor science and therefore have no place in this subreddit. So the answer is NO.
Encouraging more posters to become "verified". For me, having this tag makes a poster substantially more trustworthy.
We understand that - however it is hard to make people verify on their own.
In the future if there are enough people it'd be cool to host donation discussions for organizations/people who can positively affect aa male image in the media. The subreddit gets a really bad rep and is seen as a hate group. Although I understand the need for aa men to find a place to vent, there won't be much change if we're in this alone. It might be important in the future to start moderating away from WM/AF bashing and start pushing for positive posts and subgoals. Goals can be to spread awareness of up and coming aa male talents/movies/tv shows/books, mass mailing towards media organizations who are creating negative images for aa men, and other things. The better the subreddit's reputation and image is, the easier it will be for other big AA organizations in the media game to form connections with us.
The AMA with Jeremy Long is the first step towards this goal. Things are step by step.
Less tolerance of Asian supremacist views and pseudoscience, less anger and vitriol and more action, more research into issues, more work to ally with non-Asians which will help more in the long run
To add on to this point: If you are caught posting in asian supremacist subs , you will be banned. This is an Pan Asian sub.

III. Personal Thoughts

The following question was given to the people who took the census:
We want to see the thoughts that the Asian identity community have on the future of the sub. Should it become a beacon of light on the internet for asian activism? A educational nexus for Asian diaspora regardless of what place they come from? The birth of large Movement? The sub is many things to different people ; some may use it to educate themselves , while some use it to vent. What are you thoughts on the subreddit? Remember , this is our community , its your community , and its my community.
And we got many , many responses, some paragraphs long. Many thanks to those that gave their time in airing their personal thoughts. As their are so many, only a few will be shown here.
Inclusiveness of AFs and other allies will be imperative to growth and legitimacy.
On the scale of Allies , self hating AFs are our biggest obstacles , but also our biggest allies. I'm sure some will disagree with this statement , but Asians are created by AMAF , not by any other means. This is also stated on our about statement on the sidebar:
Asian Identity is a space for both Asian men and Asian women. However, discussion of issues that affect AM and AF must remain objective, and the complete invalidation of Asian male experiences is not allowed.
While this sub has changed to encompass AMAF instead of focusing on AM issues , we would like to remind comments to NOT invalidate experiences of the opposite gender.
Asian identity can be a place for people to get woke, however people must be open minded about it, and sometimes we sound like extremists, this can be solved by having more introduction material. I volunteer to write more introduction material as soon as I get my reading done.
If you would like to message the mods - we would gladly add you as a contributor to the wiki of this subreddit. You'll be given free access.
It'll follow the path that AM went down because posts have to be approved. There is no free exchange of ideas unless they fit into a specific narrative.
Posts are not approved. We do not use the system AM does where they go thru their posts first before approving them.

For readers to consider:

I think aznidentity has a future on becoming a good start for Asian activism. It certainly is the most trustworthy page for Asian activism out of all the ones I've seen. It's a great way for Asians all over the world to connect with each other and learn from each other. I'm new to aznidentity myself so I'm still learning too. But it is indeed a great community so I'm looking forward to building up our base.
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This forum can serve to facilitate crucial discussions about certain power structures and how they affect us collectively, as well as influence our actions on an individual basis. Being Asian gives us a unique liminal position in that we can see how racial dynamics operate other than through the model of black/white, and we should utilize this to acquire greater insight into the nature of power relations in this society, and how we can subvert them to more beneficial ends, through understanding ourselves and our link to the racist structures that we live within.
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i understand a lot of bros are frustrated but some of us need to be less militant in order to gain allies. (hapas guys are too extreme). otherwise we will make it easy for whites to manipulate and paint us as a hate group, and what we are fighting for will be deligitimized. i think we should gradually tone down our language against AFs. the hate only fuels and justifies their self hate in their eyes. instead we need other ways to shame them in a reasonable manner to make them feel guilt.
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I believe AznIdentity should be a nexus for the Asian diaspora to educate themselves about issues. Over time it would be great if this could become the springboard for a larger Asian movement.
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Would really like to see what we discuss on Aznidentity become more mainstream among Asian Americans in general. Would like to see the sub becoming popular without appeasing to whites, altright, SJWs, or anyone (this includes "allies"--while I don't mind allies, I don't believe we should censor ourselves to make them happy, regardless if they're a white woman or a black man).
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One of the main ways to reach AA and diaspora - love the purpose but we need more recruiting and less hostility - should have more of a standard of thoughtful dialogue and tbh more shaming of dumb opinions that do us no good
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It's good for an online community but the amount of help for users beyond venting is limited. Constructive posts by people in major cities would be useful in creating real change in the lives of people. This is where I hope the future of the community will be
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I think Asians across the world should use it as a place to share experiences, and thereby catalog, identify and understand the various small-scale power plays that white people make against Asians across the globe. That's how we can know that we're not alone, and how we can finally make white people accountable for their actions across the globe.
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I enjoy reading through the subreddit and agree with a lot of its ideas. I've posted occasionally, although I don't believe I've outright said I'm an AF (specifically Chinese American) anywhere. (My gender can probably be inferred from my posts, though!) I look forward to seeing the sub grow more and participate in some more discussions :-) It's difficult to bring these sort of topics up IRL, so it's nice to see a community online that isn't afraid to.
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I wish to see works on Aznidentity to spread through native Asian media channels. So more translated pieces and outreach to Asians from the homeland. This is something I have yet to see other Asian-American activist forums attempt, and it is so crucial for any future success. Media discussions have been on point. Could do without seeing so many posts about white folks/loser sexpats (though I understand the anger) as I would prefer to see more entries focusing on ourselves and how we better ourselves. But overall, it is an excellent place. Hope it only continues to grow. And getting cool AMAs like the upcoming one with Jeremy Long will only help this growth.
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I like that it's brought out awareness of racism against us. That being said, I'd like to see the community move past the bitterness and not be forever defined by what others are saying about us.
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This sub should be multifaceted. For a new member, it is a place of learning. For more established members this can be the goto spot for sharing ideas and fostering real life activism
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Offline expansion; we need something like a church but for asian s (secular of course). Not religious, but the community a church has is absolutely amazing. Would be a great way to meet the same people ever week and develop a deep level of friendship and community for life. Instead of Jesus sermons we can discuss more secular stuff like investing or how to buy a house.
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will die eventually. mods will become too inclusive and harsh on militant posts
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I am open to making it more amenable to those of African
And finally , we have this comment which I felt the need to air here because it pisses me the fuck off.
I am a white woman married to an Asian man and I have lurked here (not a poster) since the subreddit's beginning, and then on /AM before that. My husband and I are in our mid-30s and brand new parents. We participate offline in Asian activist circles for several years. I also lurk on /hapas. I do not post for privacy reasons, respect for others' spaces and at times I believe that my thoughts would be unwelcome, since I would want to eliminate both white and Asian supremacy from the subreddit. Because I genuinely see Asians, Caucasians and Africans as equal, I do not feel welcome here. That being said, it's not my sub, so I stay out of it. My view is that this subreddit will probably die out within a couple of years. It's too angry and irrational with not enough meaningful action. The bitterness and immaturity level is far too high to actually accomplish anything on a widescale social or political level. And it's far too extreme in some ares to serve as a small, grassroots environment for change. Not to mention that the subreddit is quite small.
That being said, hopefully this will serve as part of the launching pad for some of these guys when they mature and outgrow the irrational anger phase, and begin to truly make positive changes and connections with other people, Asian or not. I truly don't know if there will be a large movement for Asians in the west, because 1) the population size is very low and 2) the number of mixed race and multicultural people of Asian heritage is already outgrowing the number of "full" Asians and this pattern is estimated to continue by demographers. This means that monoracial Asians will need to eventually expand their definition of what constitutes an Asian in western nations. At this time, I am unsure if they are willing to go in that direction, it does not appear to be the face. I recognize that my family choices are contributing to this trend. However, I do not "believe" in this idea of monoracial superiority or increased connection in regards to culture. In other words, I do not see a direct connection between "race" and culture as necessary.
I can agree with the fact that the sub is too angry - but that is temporary. Yes , the sub is small. But everything starts from small. To say that it is irrational? Are you fucking kidding me? That's like Asians going to BLM and telling them how to run their group or tell them why i think their group is "too angry." Perhaps YOU are the irrational one , since YOU don't understand a thing about being Asian or being a minority for that matter. WHO ARE YOU to tell Asians what is irrational or not when it comes TO RACISM? Of which , I'm betting as an White women , you will never understand or know. The very experience of experiencing racism is a irrational experience - and you fucking an Asian guy does not make you enlightened about Asian affairs or about what we experience. Seriously ,why do white people feel the CONSTANT need to butt in and tell us what Asians should do ???
I truly don't know if there will be a large movement for Asians in the west, because 1) the population size is very low and 2) the number of mixed race and multicultural people of Asian heritage is already outgrowing the number of "full" Asians and this pattern is estimated to continue by demographers
Oh please , don't tell me what is Asian or not because some white demographers classify what is "Asian". Asians are Asians , as defined by US, not by white people.
This means that monoracial Asians will need to eventually expand their definition of what constitutes an Asian in western nations
The keyword here , is western nations. This sub is about Asian Identity. Its about connecting yourself to being ASIAN. And that means , to the strictest sense, connecting ourselves with our cultures , our motherlands. It isn't about connecting ourselves with an Asianness that is defined by whiteness. What your saying , is just an expression of white supremacy. Why do white people feel the need to insert themselves to our activism? Don't tell us how WE should determine who is full Asian and who is not! And really ,stop gaslighting us - stop telling me what I should feel about my oppression.
However, I do not "believe" in this idea of monoracial superiority or increased connection in regards to culture. In other words, I do not see a direct connection between "race" and culture as necessary.
No one believes in monoracial superiority here. No one believes that Asians are better then whites , but it seems whites seem to believe that they are better then everyelse. Us emphasizing our culture , our customs , our languages is us defending ourselves from white supremacy , and white racism. Not that you would understand that. White people feel no need to connect race and culture , because white supremacy inherently connects those two concepts as ONE. Why do we take pride in our race and culture? The same reason african americans take pride in being black. To fight back against white supremacy and racism telling us that we are inferior. White people do not understand this.
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